My girlfriend and I Broke up after 2 1/2 years and we live together. Im moving out of state and she’s already planning to hangout with other guys?

[Jbamdrews]

My ex and I dated for 2 1/2 years and I never really changed until I lost my job. I was mostly the provider until then. I had a big enough savings to handle things until a new job came along (amid COVID-19 crisis). She said I wasn’t doing things she expected of me and I needed to workout more and plan trips/excursions/dates for us more. She claimed to not enjoy being the planner. I would wake up out of a deep slumber to go get this girl a glass of water just to example how hand and foot I would treat her the best I could. Most guys wouldn’t get outta bed for that. I was her second boyfriend fresh out of highschool and she’d never really played the field as some girls have. When she decided a break is what she needed, the next day she went out of town and stayed at a friends house for a week, and after talking, she met this guy and they had plenty of sex. She met some of his friends too, but only had sex with him. After some time and painful arguments and conversations later, because I love the girl more than life itself I take her back and we try dating. It was rough, and we broke up again. This time we (she) wanted to take things slow and work towards a relationship with me and not dive into it. The next week she went on a road trip with a guy she made clear was just a friend, so I invited him to join us when they got back to drink and hangout. I walked out in them making out in a car. That was the straw that broke the camels back on my inability to trust her with guy friends. Here we are now at the end of the relationship. We officially broke up 5 days ago, and in 5 days I’ll be in a different state. She tells me she plans to take months of alone time to heal and get better, as do I. She asked me tonight to help her out on tanning lotion because she’s going to the beach to be alone and wanted to not burn. I checked her phone and the day she’s supposed to be alone she’s actually boating with a guy friend she met back when we were on a break. Opinions?

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Update: Thanks everyone for the advice and you were all correct and I’m glad I listened! I continued casual sex and left. It was sad, but left on good terms and moved across the country to start a new journey and I’m doing incredible. I’m back out there and living a healthy life!
Being in situations like that can put you in some really dark places, and I’m grateful you all took the time to respond and give sound advice. Truly!

[Anonymous]

Look this woman is not for you, she's not wife material. She was fucking thag other guy on that "road trip".
My advice is to go over tonight and "help" her with her tan, in other words use the opportunity to use her for casual sex and keep using her for sex up until you leave state, part on friendly terms and never look back.
Count yourself lucky because my ex has a kid by me and she spent last year cheating with a scumbag behind my back, i caught her sexting him but claimed they was just friends, I left she begged me to comd back and thag she would never cheat, a week before Christmas she said I needed to go to a GUM clinic to get checked out for an STD and that she wad cheating. It later turned out she was beating our son so I had to call social services. I'm in a legal struggle now a year later for joint custody and trying to keep her new boyfriend (same dirtbag) away from my son as he is a complete sleaze bag and let his daughter get raped.
Move on dude you've seen her true colours before it was too late.

[Edanurus]

You have one option, cut her out of your life completely.

5 days after you break up and she still has the nerve to treat you like her butler and so she could look hot for another guy. I really hope you didn't do it. Since you said you're the provider I'm guessing you are paying for everything so kick her out or leave yourself.

Look its hard but this girl not only doesn't love you it sounds like she has a complete disregard for your feelings. I don't use this term normally but you are being a simp here and all you're achieving is making yourself worse.

She's a liar and a manipulator, and you're causing yourself more pain, you could be the bigger man but honestly she deserves nothing.

You are never going to win her over, stop now before you cause more damage to yourself.

[Marilynjuana]

Brutal to read. Do not talk with her. Do not involve her in your life. Mind your business and get yourself out of there, and start healing. She is being absolutely vile. Nevermind disrespectful. One day she will realise that the guys she hangs with do nothing but fuck and dump her, it is very likely that she will try to sneak her way back into your life. Don't let her. She's ungrateful, selfish and entitled. She will get her lesson, for now, let her be somebody else's problem. You're free to find a woman who will treat you like a king.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You're doing the right thing ending it and moving out of state... Her behavior obviously seems to be a pattern... As hard as it is to walk away.. Far worse to stay in a situation like that and with a person like that.. Best of luck to you

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Per your update: Glad to hear it!! Sounds like you're doing much better now and much happier!

[TheFlak38]

it's time for you to realise the we're surrounded by sluts and it was bad enough for you to let her cuck you instead of dumping her quickly. The woman always has the replacement lined up and ready to grab it when it's over with you. She's not yours. It's just your turn. So dont ever sacrifice anything in your life for her. The only thing she can give you is a vagina to nut in. That's literally her only value.

[daj86]

she's not into in you. Only of it benifits her selfishness. You seem like a good decent bloke. leave her. Have a break work on you. And the right girl. Will come when you least expect it. Don't give her your time..

[boggboss]

You got played like a fool she never lived you mate she loved how you treated her and then got bored

[Wewladdy]

You were simping for her and she, being the whore that she is, took advantage of you. It happens to the best of us.

Keep your chin up, king. Things won't suck forever.

[KrakenAttackin]

TL;DR.

If you don't have kids together, who the fuck cares. Pack up, move on, and find a new squeeze.

[Dragonstarterplus]

I have my opinion, what is your opinion Asker?

[Anonymous]

i bet you had to ask her out first.

[Iron_Man]

Mive on