My ex and I dated for 2 1/2 years and I never really changed until I lost my job. I was mostly the provider until then. I had a big enough savings to handle things until a new job came along (amid COVID-19 crisis). She said I wasn’t doing things she expected of me and I needed to workout more and plan trips/excursions/dates for us more. She claimed to not enjoy being the planner. I would wake up out of a deep slumber to go get this girl a glass of water just to example how hand and foot I would treat her the best I could. Most guys wouldn’t get outta bed for that. I was her second boyfriend fresh out of highschool and she’d never really played the field as some girls have. When she decided a break is what she needed, the next day she went out of town and stayed at a friends house for a week, and after talking, she met this guy and they had plenty of sex. She met some of his friends too, but only had sex with him. After some time and painful arguments and conversations later, because I love the girl more than life itself I take her back and we try dating. It was rough, and we broke up again. This time we (she) wanted to take things slow and work towards a relationship with me and not dive into it. The next week she went on a road trip with a guy she made clear was just a friend, so I invited him to join us when they got back to drink and hangout. I walked out in them making out in a car. That was the straw that broke the camels back on my inability to trust her with guy friends. Here we are now at the end of the relationship. We officially broke up 5 days ago, and in 5 days I’ll be in a different state. She tells me she plans to take months of alone time to heal and get better, as do I. She asked me tonight to help her out on tanning lotion because she’s going to the beach to be alone and wanted to not burn. I checked her phone and the day she’s supposed to be alone she’s actually boating with a guy friend she met back when we were on a break. Opinions?
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Update: Thanks everyone for the advice and you were all correct and I’m glad I listened! I continued casual sex and left. It was sad, but left on good terms and moved across the country to start a new journey and I’m doing incredible. I’m back out there and living a healthy life!
Being in situations like that can put you in some really dark places, and I’m grateful you all took the time to respond and give sound advice. Truly!
Being in situations like that can put you in some really dark places, and I’m grateful you all took the time to respond and give sound advice. Truly!
