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So there’s a guy at the gym that stares very intently at me. Like he holds a gaze for multiple seconds. He tries to make eye contact with me and holds it until I look away. He stares at me when I’m working out, he is intentional about being around me. Whenever I leave, he leaves right after me, and then walks to his car and stands next to it, and then just stares at me while I drive away. He did this twice. The next time he left after me, he waited by the door and watched me leave maybe because he realized it seemed creepy and he didn’t want it to be like that. A couple days ago he actually left before me and I thought that was so weird. I left and I looked over for his car and it wasn’t there so I assumed he left. But then, once I got to my car, he had actually pulled his car around to be right in front of mine, and he was standing outside of his car just staring at me. So then I thought maybe he’s a stalker. But the last two nights he hasn’t even been at the gym and he knows I’m there. Wouldn’t he go to the gym if he’s as interested as he seems? I’m so confused. Is he waiting for me to talk to him? Can someone please explain any ideas? He’s pretty good looking. Very strong Hispanic man probably in his 30s. ( he’s very good looking, so doesn’t seem like he needs to be a creep) I’m 42 and get a lot of looks at the gym. I’m in great shape, tall, long blonde hair (above average looking) also, I’m married and he’s probably seen my ring.

I'll cut short in points

Been together since 7.5 years

He has always been careless, emotionally immature kind of person. I always thought he'll get better with time. Since He grew up in super protected environment.

He didn't even do bare minimum efforts and didn't treated me properly , my fault being i never complained and expressed and so he thought its okay to be like that. (And i was waiting that things come from his side itself without me asking)

I used to suffer without letting him know much, me being a hopeless romantic n sensitive person.

Now he's asking me to teach him how to treat girls so that he can do better. I feel its not my place to do. Its something his parents / friends/ himself should have taught him.

As a person he is very pure of heart, honest, and all. But he's superr dumbo and kinda avoid difficult conversations.

Tbh its kinda difficult for me and maybe I'm getting emotional since i have spent soo much time and energy for this guy.

I really wish things worked out but i dont want to lose myself in the process too.

One part of me is like.. should give another chance

Another being let it go. Things might not get better in future as well.

Another is just be friends. I help him develop as a person as a supportive friend. And if things work out or we feel we can try. Otherwise just friends.