How to accept natural for me to ask a woman out?

[Anonymous]

The reason I ask this question, is for some odd reason I just feel awkward when socializing with women. I would say more specifically socializing with a woman I find attractive. My biggest thing is I just feel like they think I’m creepy, weird, too ugly, boring, and thus unworthy to ask them out. It’s almost like they can see my inner soul and that I’m insecure, nervous and have no idea of what I’m doing. Not to mention the feeling of not wanting to come off as some creep or too “thirsty”. Which I’m sure does happen at certain points in time. It’s this sort of inferiority complex, I have no idea where it started. This all manifested in me not being able to think of topics to talk about, long periods of silence to the downright point of not even asking them out. I keep waiting sorting to prep out the girl, and see who she really is at her core. Additionally, hoping that she might give me a clear cut sign that she wants me to ask her out (clear enough for my dense behind to acknowledge). One example is my current job there are three beautiful and smart women there, who I’m not sure any of them even like me. I got two is their numbers (well one actually got my number). The one I like the most seems the least interested. Mind you I am not even sure the other two are interested. This leads to my current predicament and the feeling of social awkwardness, of not knowing what to do, how to act, what to say (this just starting queue and trying to force the conversation at times). Then how to get all my insecurities aside and even though it might be embarrassing, that I should embrace that I’m a guy and it’s natural to ask women out. Even though I get rejected or possibly humiliated in front of everyone (I’m sweating writing this, right now). I need advice. Thank you

[BadApple69]

Ok... This is a common issue with any men. They see a beautiful girl and they can't speak. They believe she is too beautiful for a troll like me. You would be surprised at the good-looking girls that can't get dates. So many guys area afraid to talk to these pretty girls the girls can't get quality dates. Stop looking at these girls like they are goddesses. They are only people just like you and I. Don't look at them like “wow, I really want to date her”. Look at them like “wow I would really like to tally to her”. You will find out she is human and not so frightening. Don't get me wrong, some pretty girls are real A-holes. Ignore them and move along. I used to be the shyest guy in the room, and that got me nowhere. Now I'll talk to anyone in any situation. Everyone is equal In my eyes. I talk to girls the same as I'll talk to guys and the girls find that refreshing. So take that girl off of your imaginary pedestal and talk to her as if you were talking to a long time friend.

[Asker]

How did you make the switch to stop putting them on Pedestals. I want to get to that point, but seems so hard to do right now. I just seem to stutter a lot or just don’t say anything, because I don’t know what to say (or my mind literally goes blank). Then other times I just seem to force the conversation and sound like an interrogator/interviewer.

[BadApple69]

I think many times the problem is we guys want the girl so bad we don’t want to screw it up.
That’s first mistake. Talk to girls just like you would talk to a friend. Talk to them like you have known them forever. I have talked to girls in line at the grocery store… “hey I see you have Gorton’s fish sticks, are they any good? I’ve been wanting to try them” of course this is an example. But do this… you’ll get more comfortable talking to women. Don’t be afraid of saying something wrong, we all do and we all survive. Just talk. If nothing comes of it then you at least gained experience. Just don’t only talk to the ones you are interested in, talk to all of them.

[Anonymous]

I know.. EXACTLY.. how you feel.
I think probably the majority of guys do, just maybe they all won't admit it.

What you need to do is forget about these gorgeous women for now, and start climbing the ladder. The top is too high to jump to.
So what I mean is start talking to more and more attractive women and work your way up to the ones you really want.
The closer you get to the really hot ones, the more you'll realize that behind that sexy exterior, they're really not much different than any of the other women, and most of them are just as insecure as you are. We're all human brother, they're not gonna tear you apart.
Reject you maybe, but any kind of woman could do that. Not just the pretty ones.
But so what, accept it with grace and dignity and move on to the next

[devilish-cutie]

Im sorry you feel this way but you need to accpet "bad" things about ysf and own, dont beat ysf up about it. A lof of women like shy, nervous guys so its not like noone would want you. Look at other people, noone is perfect and everyone has flaws. Dont put too much preassure on ysf, start small bit by bit, step by step. Maybe first try to be friends with those women not expecting more or advancing, than if a woman likes you more than a friend, she will possibly make some more initiative towards you cause getting to know you she will know you are shy.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Go ask ten women out today. Either way this is going to be awesome. 9 out of 10 will say no and now you have a date, or 10 out of 10 will say no and you'll see it's not the end of the world.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I don't know man. 10/10 saying no could be a major blow to his self esteem lol

[BoopBoopBeep]

@WanderingLoveWizard doesn't have to be. more times than not it will be 10 out of 10 no, at least for a while, but the point is to see the world doesn't end and remind yourself that there are literally billions of women out there. you talked to 10. that's not even a rounding error

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Can't argue with that

[Anonymous]

Yeah because men need to be much smarter in social dynamics than women do