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Going to be 30 soon & ask myself why I’m incapable of being in a relationship with a man, people can say that I’m picky but I don’t fully believe I should take all the blame. Female friends I’ve had in the past seem to get dates easier/are okay with putting out & some have unintentionally made me second guess my looks, as they seem to have it easier yet other people have told me I’m equally/more attractive than they are. The last time I “dated” someone was when I was in my early twenties & I’m glad that ended because this guy felt like settling. It justifies that love isn’t blind & it’s better to be alone vs being in a mediocre relationship. I know I’m not all that but I feel like I should be able to attract quality men, all my life I feel like I’ve been invisible to men. I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (don’t count dating apps) & the very few times someone told me that a guy found me attractive (normally a guy I also thought was attractive), they never told me directly & it was always word of mouth.

I feel like I am cursed, that last person I saw in my early twenties was through a dating app & that’s how I’ve met all of these men I’ve met up with. The apps are continually getting worse & they’ve always had a bad rep, getting matches are never an issue it just fails to go anywhere for a number of reasons. And sometimes when I’ve met guys in person & it didn’t work out, there’s just something about them that doesn’t live up to my expectations (even though they look like their pics). I’m unsure if my dating logic is unrealistic, dating apps are the only way for me to meet people & don’t understand how I can be this old & haven’t been in love yet.

The last thing I’ll add is my lack of sex drive, masturbation doesn’t do anything for me & I haven’t had sex since I saw that person back in my early twenties. However, it’s known that some women need to be in a healthy relationship in order to have that *sexual desire*.

This question is purely based off of genuine curiosity about how differences in culture and backgrounds affect relationships. Does race ever play a role in who you ultimately end up with and why? (I know this question can be applied to all races but I specifically want to know for white men)

My relationship with my ex lasted 4 years, and he broke up with me almost a year ago. We were serious; he bought a ring, which was a whole thing. While I was with him, though, his mom kept influencing him to end things with me since my family wasn't accepting of the relationship. However, he ended the relationship on his own accord because he was "falling out of love, not compatible anymore, etc."

After the breakup, his mom was my primary support system since my family didn't support us. She told me that she believes he'll reconcile with me in a couple of years since he still has a lot of maturing to do, and he will contact me when it's time. But she told me to move on in the meantime and how she met her now-husband after her serious relationship ended. After a couple of months, I stopped contacting her and his family because it was taking a toll on my mental health since she kept referring to me as "daughter-in-law" when her son moved 12 hours away to avoid reminders of our relationship and the possibility of seeing me.

However, his mom and grandmother still text me occasionally. She texted me this past Christmas, asking if I was single and wishing me a happy Easter. His grandmother texted me last week to see how I was doing since she thought of me. I am moving on with another man now. My family doesn't support this relationship, but he doesn't mind, will fight their dissatisfaction, and will marry me soon. It's hard now, though, because I can't help but wonder if my ex's family is trying to make him reconsider the breakup and reconcile with me, especially since they still message me. I don't want to block them because it feels rude, but it's also making me question my new relationship. Help?