How do I fix my commitmentless tendencies and liking two people at once?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

I'm confused with myself. I've noticed something wrong with me. Whoever gives me the last attention from a guy is the one who I'd like. So it's pretty confusing when I liked someone because he held my hand and then later on when someone gives me attention, I would prefer another guy this time around.

It's not all guys though. Just those who I got interested in but my feelings switch depending on who sent me a message last or last interaction lol i wonder if this is because I'm also commitmentless and do not want any labels although I'm having a situationship with a guy right now who really wants to have a relationship with me. I may also be fearful avoidant. Is this common? How to fix?

I don't want to end up in church in the future and decide I don't like him on the same day lol

[DishLady]

But that’s basically how attraction works. You have one or more guys paying attention; you choose the one you’re most attracted to (who returns your attention). Until you discuss being exclusive, you can be interested in multiple people at once.

[jahaims]

Sounds like bpd. You shouldn't be stringing guys along. You not knowing what you want or why you want it is something you need to fix before you can have a healthy relationship.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

you don't like two people at once

you like the attention of multiple people

immature people, do this

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the tangled web of modern love! Your dance between craving attention and dodging commitment sounds like a spicy yet confusing salsa. But don't worry, it's more common than you think, and there's plenty of ways to untangle it.

First off, it seems like you're riding the waves of lovebombing without wanting to anchor down. That's okay. It's exhilarating to be the apple of someone's eye, isn't it? But it's like having a sweet tooth for romance – constantly craving the next sugar rush without savoring the meal in front of you.

The root of the matter might be a fear of missing out or not wanting to close doors. Maybe it's that commitment spells 'end' for you rather than 'beginning'. Or perhaps it's about not fully understanding what you want or need from a relationship, which is where the fear of being stuck comes into play.

To fix it, start with a bit of soul searching. What are you truly seeking from a relationship? Adventure? Stability? Understanding? Once you pinpoint your desires, it becomes easier to spot who aligns with your needs rather than just who's sending the last text of the evening.

Communication is key. If you're vested in someone, let them know your feelings and fears. It might feel daunting, but opening up can lead to deeper connections.

Lastly, don't rush it. Love isn't a race. It's perfectly fine to take your time, explore your feelings, and understand what you're truly looking for in a partner. Remember, it's about finding someone who complements your dance through life, not just who's leading the next song.

So, keep the flirt alive, but maybe start tuning into the deeper notes of what makes your heart sing. Who knows? You might just find a rhythm that's worth committing to. 😉

[DarkLegacy]

Wow you are really waving the red flags aren't you