Search Results: does he like me or is he just playing

I’ve been seeing this girl Selina for 2 weeks now. We’re not official and have only gone on one date but it was with a group. Her best friend Pam seems to like me too, but she might be testing me.

We all go to the same church. I usually sit on the right side in the 4th row from the front. Selina usually sits in the front with the praise team and Pam sits in random places.

Last service, Pam gets to church before me and sits in my spot. I look at the row in front but I see a purse blocking 3 seats so I sit in the 4th row a few seats down from Pam. As church starts filling up, Pam grabs the purse, looks at me, and says, “Guess church is gonna be packed today”. Then she moves all the way next to me.

Selina goes up to sing during song service and constantly looks over at us. Pam keeps brushing up against me and singing in my ear and I keep scooting away from her.

Then after service, Pam starts playing with her hair and asking me questions about my friends and future travel plans. I keep it brief and go find Selina.

As I said before, they’re best friends. Is Pam trying to test my loyalty to Selina? Or does she like me too and is trying to win me over? If Pam likes me, how can I make her respect me & Selina even though we’re not official yet? If she doesn’t like me, is she testing me and how can I get her to stop? I do not want to deal with her annoying behavior every week at church if she keeps this up.

There are a few times out of curiosity I’ve approached heavier girls and even though they were traditionally not very pretty there was something intangible about them I found attractive.

Surprisingly these girls were actually extremely bitchy when I gave them keen but innocent attention. The attention wasn’t sexual but of intense curiosity that might become sexual.

Anyway they got bizarre deluded sense of pride that they just had to play “hard to get”. Yet I would have no problem walking the second I felt a shit test happening. Admittedly attractive women are much more likely to get away with playing games with me (but I know where to draw the line). But it’s like a unattractive woman thinks that acting bitchy somehow puts her on par with the very pretty girls she is so jealous of.

I remember years ago I went to get a few drinks with a girl I didn’t find attractive at all. I’m not sure how it started by she ended up going mega bitch and saying something really nasty.

Then next day she messaged me and apologize profusely. She begged me for a second chance. I told her I felt better she apologized but I wasn’t interested in hanging out again. She sadly wished me best of luck and I did likewise.

But anyway why do these unattractive often self sabotage the few rare opportunities they do have to date a decent looking guy who gave them attention? Does the feeling of deluded pride of being “able to turn someone down because I think I am hot and have options” more satisfying then actually having a real tangible rare opportunity with someone?

I know no fat guy would turn down a woman who is a 7 or above. But why would a BBW woman turn down the same vice versa?