I honestly don't know how much more I can take. He claims he's not accusing me he's just asking. I try to be a good girlfriend. Sometimes he threatens to leave. Sometimes he tells me if these someone else I should just go. I'm faithful. He started therapy to improve his trust issues but I don't know how long I can deal with the accusations. I put my location on at times just so he knows where I am. One time I was sleeping and Snapchat map showed I was like 30 feet from my house. I tried to tell him maybe it messed up bc the weather but he didn't believe me. He accused me of hooking up with someone in a care at 1am. Just today I went to the bank and was 7 minutes late for my appointment so they took someone else and couldn't see me. He didn't believe me. I don't know what he thought I was doing but i gave him the silent treatment. He said my story didn't sound believable. Someone told me what he does is emotional abuse. I don't want do believe it but I wonder if it's true. When things are good they are great but we're having less great days these days. Still I'm playing a surprise for him.
Hi. Don't get caught up in worrying about what "issues" or problems your man might have here. This is simply a tactic to try and control you. He wants to know where you are and what you are doing and then switches the focus to your behaviour as the cause of the problem. The fact he has sought some form of counselling suggests to me he has probably at some point come to you and tried to say he knows he is the one with the problem and he needs you to help and "save" him. Then a few days later he is back to doing the same thing. This is just a calculated form of coercive control switching the blame to you, then claiming he will change and needs you to help him, back to blaming you. He will not change. He will in fact keep going until you just accept the behaviour as normal and adapt your own movements, social life, work life etc etc to keep him happy, after which he will find something else to accuse you of and tie you up in knots with. Don't let yourself sleepwalk down this path of believing he needs your help and will change while slowly normalising his behaviour. The time to walk I'm afraid, is now.
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Sounds like a very possessive and controlling person
That adds up to a toxic relationship
I been in them type of relationships before.
My advice
Run away as fast as you could. It will not get better, do not try to fix him
RUN and don't look back
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Yes, it's emotional abuse. I know is difficult to leave when you really love him, but he's not a good guy; I don't think he'll change
I would definitely leave, the things you mention are too much, he sounds crazy tbh
You deserve better, babes! I hope you leave him and meet a good person that makes you happy and trust you as much as you do, good luckNobody but you can make decision for you. Since you're the only one who really know how you perceive everything.
But from what you tell us it sounds like a dysfunctional and abusive relationship.he is either insecure to a ridiculous degree or he's the one hiding stuff, its making him paranoid
Naw. I would have booted that guy a long time ago.
Nobody deserves to be treated like that
I would break up, a person who slanders others is guilty of violence to your reputation.
If you had done something wrong, he would have told you by now.
If you had done something wrong, you would clearly know what it was.
Sometimes people's nature doesn't reveal itself until they get comfortable.I'd be done with that he's obviously very insecure and nothing you do will ever be good enough don't waste your time move on
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