i’ve gotten pretty close with this guy at work and after a few months of many people saying it was obvious we both seem into each other, my friend finally asked him the other day if he had feelings for me. he said no and the reason he treats me so differently from others is that i’m one of his closest friends.
he told me a few months ago he was in a long-term relationship before and he said it wasn’t the best break up, and in his next relationship he wants to be really good friends with someone before committing. so i took that as he was warming up to me.
he knew i liked him for months bc he asked my friend. he continued to make small talk/comments about me and that fact to my friend and he never told her if he did or didn’t like me. my friend told me that just about EVERY conversation she’s ever had with him to this day, my name has been brought up for one reason or another by him. he had every opportunity to clear it up and i can’t understand why he didn’t. i feel played but i don’t see him as a player and it’s not like he flirts with every girl around. and he’s told me he doesn’t like people playing games with each other. even his friends were trying to get him to ask me out. he also said that in the beginning of them trying to get us together that he “wasn’t prepared for a relationship.”
he told her that he feels bad bc he thought i was over him and that he wasn’t going to change with me and he hoped i didn’t change with him. things have been good between us and nothing’s changed, i just feel a little guarded and embarrassed.
i need guys’ perspective on this one, bc i can’t understand why he acts the way he does with me and talks about me all the time and seems interested but says he’s not. i believe him of course, but it’s just confusing.
he told me a few months ago he was in a long-term relationship before and he said it wasn’t the best break up, and in his next relationship he wants to be really good friends with someone before committing. so i took that as he was warming up to me.
he knew i liked him for months bc he asked my friend. he continued to make small talk/comments about me and that fact to my friend and he never told her if he did or didn’t like me. my friend told me that just about EVERY conversation she’s ever had with him to this day, my name has been brought up for one reason or another by him. he had every opportunity to clear it up and i can’t understand why he didn’t. i feel played but i don’t see him as a player and it’s not like he flirts with every girl around. and he’s told me he doesn’t like people playing games with each other. even his friends were trying to get him to ask me out. he also said that in the beginning of them trying to get us together that he “wasn’t prepared for a relationship.”
he told her that he feels bad bc he thought i was over him and that he wasn’t going to change with me and he hoped i didn’t change with him. things have been good between us and nothing’s changed, i just feel a little guarded and embarrassed.
i need guys’ perspective on this one, bc i can’t understand why he acts the way he does with me and talks about me all the time and seems interested but says he’s not. i believe him of course, but it’s just confusing.
