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This is my wife's account but she told me to post to get some feedback. She is convinced she is right. I'm convinced I am.

Neither me or my wife wanted a dog but our oldest son started begging for awhile and her and I made a decision that we would give it a trial run. We had a family member with a litter of pups and she gave us one. The dog is now almost 3. From the beginning she has had behavioral issues. She whines excessively (literally 24/7) but that has gotten better. For the first year she refused to use the bathroom outside at all. It was like she was afraid of grass and dirt. She would just start whining and shaking like a leaf whenever she was brought outside and then would shit indoors the second you brought her in. But again, that has gotten better though she still has accidents at random (which pisses the wife off because sometimes it's right after she's been outside for over a half hour already). She's a super anxious dog as well and she panics if you aren't touching her constantly. Even if she is in her kennel (not locked or anything) she will be staring at you the whole time and either whining or shaking. Every time you get up to move she is immediately chasing after you and this leads to no time alone at all. And to top it off, our son hates the dog. This stems from this was supposed to be his dog but the dog took to me and no one else and won't even hang out with our son. She wants nothing to do with him and he's tired of her behaviors. I've been training her since we got her and she is just now starting to act even remotely trained and will only do things for treats. My wife and son want to re-home the dog because they say that we don't have the resources and it's "negligent" to have her here. They say this because the dog won't even eat unless I am standing by her food dish with her. Wife says that I'm enabling bad behaviors by "allowing" her anxiety to continue (I won't medicate her due to other health issues). I say she's family and she stays.

I was in a store today and I saw someone fall outside. I went out to see if I could help. By the time I got there a few people had already helped him up. He was much younger than I had anticipated. He had a leg condition I believe and was using a cane as a result. My Intent was to go see if I could be of help. When I arrived I saw there was a little dog in a case, the dog had fallen too.

The store clerk was swinging the dog into the cart. This was unexpected and caught me off guard. The person who had fallen and got up and kind of positioned the dog awkwardly. Honestly at this point I was feeling most badly for the dog bc it had no control over the situation and no one had checked on it. The guy who fell said thank you and moved on. I got the impression he didn’t want any more “ help” I didn’t want to embarrass him or make him feel putties but I also was worried about the dog.

I politely asked him if I could make a suggestion on how to position the case bc I take Bella in there and there’s a way to do it so it lays flat. He didn’t want to do it that way bc then the dog would he on the bottom. Ok I understand that abs I only had like 15 seconds to assess. The dog was calm & looked well groomed so I figured he cared for the dog it was just an awkward moment. I wanted to say more , to offer to help him or the dog but again I didn’t want to embarrass him.

I have a condition and when I fall I really have people gathering around tho I know they are only trying to be kind. I felt really bad walking away bc he had taken a huge fall and the first thing I said was a recommendation. I should’ve said I hope he’s ok if I saw he had a big wipe out if I can help I’d be happy to. If he wanted he to puss off ok but at least he’d know I care.

Being prideful sucks bc you see things through that lens and miss opportunity where help would’ve been good. . If I didn’t feel so awkward when people offer to help, I’d probably have just offered without thinking of it.