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Should I be turned off by my online friend? Or am I overthinking this? So I’ve had an online friend for a few years and he started wishing me a happy birthday every year after we got to know each other a little better. There were times where he would & I wouldn’t, when that were the case, he’d follow up a few days or maybe a week after saying I forgot it was his birthday (more subtly). Last year, he wished me a happy belated & this year I decided to also be more laid back. I just asked him if he had a good birthday maybe a day or two after it actually happened, I sent him that message after he followed up with me about something else. He leaves me on read yet continues to view my IG stories. This has always been the case, he’s always one of the first to see my stories but may go weeks without msging me. A few years back, he’d literally go weeks without replying but will be the first person to see my stories or comment. But when I’d take long to get back to him, he’d *jokingly* say that I’m ignoring him or ask if I’m busy. Honestly I don’t feel like I did anything wrong so I don’t see the need to reach out, it just seems hypocritical. You can be busy but I can’t? He hasn’t made a comment like that in years & his response time has gotten better but it’s been almost 5 months & I haven’t heard from him. I have a tendency to delete people when my frustration has built up, I don’t know if it’s an avoidant personality style trait. But he’s the only “friend” I have so I want to think this through. It’s not looking too good & I’m feeling tempted to ignore him if he reaches out again or remove him from IG soon if I don’t hear back before then. I don't know if this indicates anything but after taking online quizzes, I came back as DA and he came back as FA.

After reflecting back on this man I talked to I can’t put my finger on him..

I talked to a guy that tried to emotionally manipulate me into having sex with him even though I said no and I needed to work on myself.. ofc when I said that I still wasn’t ready he turned into a jerk and he stopped making me feel safe.

I feel that he truly didn’t respect my boundaries

He follows explicit trans and male male female content… incest stories…alot of the content he follows are people who live in the same city as him… a lot of the men following those pages had “dl” in their bio…

I think he connects with those individuals…

I met him off a dating site and he uses a false name and I just discovered that his profile is set to women and nonbinary individuals

Sneaky behavior

“”The best way to say sorry is not to say sorry at all, unless you have done something intentional and you felt wrong and guilty about it. See, people your apologize are precious to you. Your value is affected by saying sorry or apologizing to people. So unless you do something wrong INTENSIONALLY and feel bad about it do not say sorry. Make your apology creditable..

Now what do I say instead of saying sorry? Or what do I do to make it up to someone who you have disappointed?

See, first of all you are not the one who disappointed them, it's just that they expected something out of you and they got disappointed..
It isn't wrong to expect something out of someone either.
SO THIS IS WHAT YOU DO.
Rather than saying "SORRY", say "THANK YOU". Appreciate them for what they have done for you. Understood?
Say, you are late to meet someone for about an hour, and they waited for you for an hour. Don't go and say "I am so sorry for being late, sorry but there was traffic." Say "oh I am so late, thank you for being so patient and for waiting for me, traffic was terrible today."
Another
Say, you have disappointed some one, say you fail to do something. You don't go and say "Sorry, I couldn't do it, sorry for disappointing you, I hope to do better next time." The other person won't appreciate your apologize. But, if you say something like. "Thanks for keeping your hope on me all this time, I know I couldn't do what you wanted but next time I will try my best."
Guy try it it's like magic.
The power of a thankyou is amazing.

Remember
Don't say sorry, say thank you. “”