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I have two friends: both are 40, have chosen the single life for years. One is a guy, he was friends with a girl in her early 30’s for a year and dated her casually for a year before he finally decided she was the one and asked her to be his girlfriend. After one year of seriously dating, he proposed marriage at Christmas. They married two months later. He’s a guy, we’ll call him Ryan. Him taking his time is fine.

The other friend is a woman (we’ll call her Tara), she’s been “seeing” a guy (also 40) for at least 9 months. They haven’t labeled it yet, every time I ask her when she’s labeling the relationship she always says “we’re taking our time with it, keeping it casual and just being friends first”. I love Tara, but she’s out of her freakin mind. I demanded my boyfriend to define the relationship after 5 months. Tara does want this guy, but she just lives in her own little shell and won’t demand what she wants. She just sits back lets things happen and says she wants him to define it in his own time (I told her drop his ass if he doesn’t define it at the end of this month).

It’s fine that Ryan took his time. He’s a guy and it’s more socially accepted for him to put off relationships and marriage. For women I don’t understand it though. I feel like when we go that route, we get used, we get our time wasted and we get hurt. I think Tara is making a huge mistake, but my boyfriend says she’s not. What if she defines the relationship and then decides she doesn’t like him after all (that’s his logic). Maybe because I’m also dying to matchmake her and there’s a friend of my bf’s who I want her to meet (because he’s dying to date her and I think they’re perfect for each other).

Pros: She is a hard worker even willing to support her husband if he doesn't want to work. She achieves everything she sets her mind to. She loves to travel and will gladly take you all over the world or go hiking and backpacking to new adventures. She is pretty (not the prettiest) but has a great body. She cooks for you daily amazing dishes and loves to play videogames. She is very financially responsible, she looks younger than her age and is very family oriented. She is loyal, super sweet and caring.

Cons: she is insane and crazy. Really jealous, childish, explosive, has temper issues and extremely envious of other people. She constantly gives you stress and headaches and many times you feel you have to walk on egg shelves. She also has probable signs of autism and ADHD, is often times a Karen, and is willing to make a scene if things don't go her way. Even yell at children in the street if they are being annoying or at random people if they do something she doesn't like.