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Dated a girl last spring until fall, and we ended up parting ways after she had a severe mental health crisis. We agree to split, and she states that we will grow, and improve upon ourselves then in the future we may get back together when we have both grown.

She encourages me make a tinder app and meet other women to explore my tastes (I don't too busy). Fast forward to this summer, and I help rehabilitate dog. She sees the rescue dog I working with and asks to have it, and she continuously sends me texts about the dog. The entire 14 months we are separated she always asks to go for coffee, and dinner/drinks to catch up. I always come up with an excuse to avoid it.

We also sometimes have 2 hour long conversations once a week. In September she says I am her one true friend, and asks me to babysit the dog I gave her in November for a wedding across the country. No one else can. She drops it off on November 3rd, and we go to dinner where she tells me she was extremely crazy, and understands why I broke up with her, and tells me she is now receiving therapy for her mental/childhood issues. She is also on medication for PTSD due to sexual trauma.

She leaves, and while I watch the dog she engages in almost no contact with me won't answer phone, or respond to texts. On November 19 she apologizes, and admits that she had a crazy few weeks due to drama there.

Now we are talking from November 20th to now, and I feel like things are getting better, and I feel she has grown as a partner. She lets it slip that 14 months ago she made a tinder profile to sleep with a bunch of guys, and still talks on the phone with them? The she says that she was dating a man from June to November while talking to me. What?

Do I have a right to be upset? Or am I overreacting? I am so confused. Any advice please. I have never experienced such a situation. Please help

0m/36f have been together twelve years, married ten. Have four kids. Both have decent jobs, house paid for.

So the husband resents the wife, calls her “loose” multiple times during arguments, blamed her for loosing contact with his family. doesn’t pay attention to the wife, help with the kids, wasn’t going to bed with his wife for months. Had an argument and she gave him one last chance to get his stuff straight. Also told him during this time she was going to get her financials squared away so she can leave at anytime.

The wife felt like she was just existing, unattractive, unwanted for about two years. She started selling “used garments” online for attention. Ended up having an emotional affair that she met on the website for almost three months. She told this other guy she’s falling for him making plans for their future and promised she’d go with him when her marriage ends. Also mentioned she’s pretty sure her husband won’t change. Mentioned swinging to her husband, and said her marriage is indifferent if it ends. Promised the guy when the marriage ends she’ll go to him.

Husband found the correspondence with the other guy told her to stop. She went no contact with the guy for about 27 days and wrote him saying she’s thinking about him, but she can’t open up the door to him or a relationship right now, and and wished him a happy birthday.

So is this marriage doomed? Will she stick it out? Odds she’ll leave?

40m/36f have been together twelve years, married ten. Have four kids. Both have decent jobs, house paid for.

So the husband resents the wife, calls her “loose” multiple times during arguments, blamed her for loosing contact with his family. doesn’t pay attention to the wife, help with the kids, wasn’t going to bed with his wife for months. Had an argument and she gave him one last chance to get his stuff straight. Also told him during this time she was going to get her financials squared away so she can leave at anytime.

The wife felt like she was just existing, unattractive, unwanted for about two years. She started selling “used garments” online for attention. Ended up having an emotional affair that she met on the website for almost three months. She told this other guy she’s falling for him making plans for their future and promised she’d go with him when her marriage ends. Also mentioned she’s pretty sure her husband won’t change. Mentioned swinging to her husband, and said her marriage is indifferent if it ends.

Husband found the correspondence with the other guy told her to stop. She went no contact with the guy for about 27 days and wrote him saying she’s thinking about him, but she can’t open up the door to him or a relationship right now.

So is this marriage doomed? Will she stick it out? Odds she’ll leave?