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I have been thinking about plutonic friendship between men and women. I know it can happen and work out in the long run for some people. However for myself, I rarely see it or experienced it. First of all I want to say that I'm a... Floater kind of friend. I have many different friends and have been accepted into their friend groups however I keep my distance plus I don't really like all the drama associated with the group drama. I am aware of it, I hope I don't ropped into them but if they ask my opinion I'll gladly give it. Now, I have been friends with women/girls growing up. The pattern I see is that once they get a boyfriend that they start ignoring and hanging out with me and or the group. I get it's a new relationship and it's fun and exciting. Spending time with each other is important but I don't understand this shift after like a year or so. Usually they are like absorbed in to their current boyfriends circle of friends. And the girls some times bring up her girl friends circle and mix. A part of me feel sad about not being included and I just grew up and accepted that is the fact of life? I get the stories of jealous boyfriends but... That just sounds like a bad relationship.

So right now, I have one best friend that is a woman. She's really chill. And I have five male best friends plus their group of girls that are their friends. I talk to the girls and we have hung out a little but their time is mostly around their boyfriends. Like we see them like maybe 4 times a year. However I have another best friend and their circle is tight. A bit of drama but they are more chill about hanging out with the guys and myself. Plus they are also in relationships but they kind of known each other from middle school. Not like they always been to school with each other but it just worked out? After college.

So I see both sides and it's interesting.
What's your experience?