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I’m 24 moving to another state to live with my fiancé and his grand mother…not by choice but for family reasons. She’s expecting me to ask her how she feels about me moving there. Now don’t get me wrong. I respect my elders and I actually planned to speak with her. But the vibe I’m getting is that I owe her that…and at the end of the day I told my fiancé I didn’t want to live with family all my life. I’m literally moving from my family home so it’s like I’m leaving one controlling family household to another. I don’t want to explain what I do, where I go, or if what I do makes them feel some type of way when I’m a damn adult.

I just don’t like the fact that I’m not given the same common courtesy as well. The phone works both ways and nobody was ever invested in our relationship until he proposed. One I feel horrible enough that I’m a grown ass woman about to go live with someone else’s family. Just makes me regret not saving for my own place and following through with that. I knew he was going to look out for his grandmother I’d do the same but how do we fit us both working full time, attempting to manage kids if we have any and then him taking care of his grandma…. any good man would but where’s the breaking point

He literally bugged out on me and told me to leave him alone because he’s already stressed & annoyed and I’m putting the nail in the coffin…

What should I do?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I initiate literally all our dates (the last time he planned something for us was probably 2 years ago), I usually am the one to initiate sex, I ask him how he is and about his day and he rarely asks me how I’m going, I sometimes talk to him and he actually ignores me. When he’s away working or on surf trips, I will ask him how he’s going but he never asks me how everything is back home. But he still says he loves me. And sometimes he says he misses me. We’ve broken up before because I’ve told him that I feel unwanted at times and that the live isn’t reciprocated and he didn’t really do anything to try and mend our relationship. I feel like I’m trying really hard now to keep our love alive but it feels so one-sided. I have even tried to back off because I don’t want to come across needy. I have my own life - my own hobbies, my own career, my own friends, and I do many things without him. I have been genuinely choosing to be with him because I want him, not because I need him. I love him very much but I don’t feel appreciated or valued and I don’t know what else to do. I’ve spoken and even cried to him about feeling unloved and he says he understands and that he loves me but that something might be wrong with him. When I ask him what he thinks is wrong, he doesn’t know. I’m 32 now and really want to find my person. I’m starting to doubt if he is the one for me but I still love him very much and want to make it work. But I also love myself and don’t want to waste my time if it’s obvious to everyone else that he’s no longer interested in me.