Okay let me first say i am a dumbass moving on. so i matched with this dude and he asked me what i was looking for, i said im not fully sure and what about him. He responds with something casual and said if that was fine with me. My thought process was oh okey dude wants something casual im fine with that lets get to know him better for this. I respond with that fine then asks me for my insta i told him if we could wait since i want to get a good feel on this dude for safety of course and he was like i usually delete when i find what i want and there's no need to keep the app and keep looking for other people if we both agree on the casual but he was okay keeping the app for 1 or 2 day (excuse me im telling you i want a better feel and you giving me a timer). In my brain i was like wow wow wow dude i literally just match with you like a minute ago im down for causal once i understand the person you are. So i don’t know what to do with the situation now causeee im a push over and i don’t understand how i got immediately into a casual relationship when i thought we were talking about what works in the future. And again because i am a dumbass and my brain stopped working i ended up kinda setting up a date with no exact dates but like dude you haven’t talked to me for more then 5 minutes and we already a thing i get you like my face but damn. Again im spineless
What do I do about the guy in tinder?
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So yeah, you screwed this up. So he is full of shit on various levels. Like deleting the app... yeah right, he will just block you profile or unmatched you... and even if he's you can log on without the app.
So this guy really just wants a Freind With Benefits situation... which means he literally does not want a relationship or to even get to know you better outside of sex. So, you should of just say let's meet for cup of coffee and get a sense of the vibe we might have before committing to anything. If he had an issue with that then its an easy unmatch and delete for you.
As it is, if you seriously do not see yourself fucking some guy sight unseen then delete and unmatched this guy right now because the next guy will be hitting you up in like 5 minutes. If you are a woman looking for a hook up, then you never have to advertise it on a dating site. 90% of men would be more than willing to meet up with you, cup of coffee and move to sex quickly if you approach them.
So chalk this one up as a lesson learned, but never tell a guy your into casual unless you are 100% into it, if you are unsure then just say no. But this guy is a creepy dude, don't go any further with this one.
Just set up dates with guys, find one you like and then move it sex and tell him you just want to be causal after that.
we told you - block him
Either setup an actual date or move on.