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I have been in the hospital for 2wk with pregnancy complications. I ended up having an emergency C-section. In that time my husband was supposed to get the flat ready for when I came home with the baby. Put the cot up get babies things out tidy up & paint the bedroom. I came home to discover that he had done absolutely nothing at all. Had me do everything days after having surgery. Husband won’t do anything to help me with the baby, refuses to help in the flat. Calls me lazy makes me feel like I’m worthless, this is all while he sits there on GTA V all day long as high as a kite, while commenting how hard his life is how exhausted he is sat there doing nothing all day long. We’ve been together for 14yrs married for 13yrs this is our first baby together. My question is, should I leave him & make a good life for me & the baby? I’ve had enough now, I don’t deserve this all I’ve ever done is love that man give him everything he ever wanted in life but all he does is make me feel unloved not wanted & like I’m dirt on his shoe. My marriage now depends on what you say, because sometimes I think I’m overreacting to the situation so I’m asking for your honest opinion no hate please just be honest thank you ❤️❤️

For context, this man was married to his wife for like a good 12 years. A few years back he was in a car accident due to reckless driving that has ended up in almost complete paralysis of his legs. Last year she eventually left him, and they share four kids under the age of 9.

He said things were rocky prior to the breakup with her saying some particularly nasty things and blaming him for his accident etc. They started to argue a lot and the relationship collapsed. She’s now very bitter toward him, however, I think she’s been hoping to get back together and fix things with him, but he is refusing her advances and saying he’s moved on.

He’s keen to meet up with me. However, I know exactly how his ex feels in her position. I know exactly how it feels for the person you love to move on with someone new when all you want to do is fight for your relationship. I understand she may have left the relationship, but they share 4 kids together. And maybe she is having some regrets. I don’t want to be that woman that swoops in and gets in the middle of that sort of thing, especially where young children are involved. What are your thoughts?