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Bare with me as it just occurred to me. I know a 60+ yr old guy dating a 30 yr old woman. So, what if he saw her mom when he was 30 before married/pregnant and talked with her... instead of interest in her, he was interested in after she was married, marrying her future female offspring.

What words, emotion, expression would that create?

Yea, I know it's weird, just thought I'd share how weird life can be.

It's actually kinda sick. But then again, people do the weirdest stuff...

For purposes of protecting the innocent, I'm anon.

it's GAG... just let it be... you'll only find this kind of question... on GAG...

Meaning you might think you're invisible around certain people and then you'll find out that you're not, or you'll say something to the person next to you, and you didn't even think the person next to them heard it but they let you know they did, or some people will say to you I heard you did this or got this, like you're a topic of conversation and gossip and such

To me, the idea of eating with others is far more foreign than eating alone could ever be to most people, or at least that's the vibe I'm getting.

As a kid, my father got home 2-3 hours before my mother did, leaving my brother and I to eat with my dad. My father provided for me, but that's all he did, he never helped raise me, teach me, all he did was insult, threaten and scold me and my mother at every opportunity.

My brother was the son he wanted and I'm the one he wishes he didn't have, that's how he's made me feel every day since I was born.

For this reason, I started taking food to my room to stay away from him. In school, the noise and frequent rejection from others pushed me to find a teacher willing to let me and a few others eat in a room away from the cafeteria. Even then, I never went to talk, I went because I didn't like my classmates and didn't like being around them.

I never felt welcome or belonging, only 2 people ever made me feel anything but unwanted. For all these reasons, eating alone was pretty much the only way to eat.

It has been 16 years since I sat at a table with just my parents and brother, and I will never eat with my father alone, and I'm sorry to say that I really do mean that.

In high school, I ate at the table closest to the door, I ate fast, usually just a couple minutes. I didn't talk to anyone, I just ate, took my enzymes and went to the courtyard to throw the football. I'd accepted that aside from throwing a football outside, me and others just weren't ever going to have any kind of relationship, discussion, we were never going to spend time together, so I kept to myself, and frankly, I was as annoyed with their presence as they were with mine. So the hatred was very mutual

As you've noticed, I've been more open but still, I have no shortage of hesitation to change eating from a necessary refueling of the body to a social environment.

But I'll get there. Is eating a social event for you?

I'm working on myself and my health first before entering the dating world again as I'm currently unprepared.

I saw a show where a man in his 60s was in an arranged marriage with a young woman. After they tried for a child, he said "Go fetch me some pickled herrings".

I really, really hope a guy wrote this for satire, and a woman didn't have an actual husband send his wife on some "fetch" mission for food instead of getting it, himself.

Ladies tell me, has a man you were dating ever unironically talked to you like that?

"Fetch some herrings"? That is not acceptable for a 5 year old boy to talk like that to his mom, let alone some old dude to his "wife".

Please tell me men are not acting like this with girls they're dating. I'd expect to get smacked if I ever did that cause that's just unbelievable that a man can't be bothered to get his own plate and makes his spouse do it for him. Have you seen this in your personal lives, ladies?

Has a man you dated ever talked to you with such childish, disrespectful entitlement?