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I’ve been living with my fiancé and his grandma for about 7 months now. Lately she has been getting even sicker (she’s on oxygen 24/7) so that also contributes to her having some breathing issues as well. It’s been a few days since she’s been back home from the hospital since her last visit not too long ago. Everything has been turned upside down!

No drama but everything is about her. I work full time M-F get home at 6pm so majority of my time is there since he doesn’t work but get $ monthly. She was already dependent on him but now it’s worse! He has to feed her, and walk her to the bathroom, clean up after her and clean the house all the time.

NYE was the first time in days we’ve spent more than 1 hr together.. IN THE SAME DAMN HOUSE!!! I’ve been asking him for months for dates, more than 2hrs of quality time, to get away from the house since his grandma is home ALLL the time!! We have no privacy and no peace and quiet at all cause he’s always chasing after her. Anytime we leave the house together it’s pretty much for her benefit not for a good time.

I don’t want to sound selfish but I’ve been helping him before her health declined but it makes me not want to help since there hasn’t been any balance in our relationship. It’s all about her and did I forget to add we’ve only slept in the same bed 5 times the whole 7 months I’ve been here.
I explain to him I want things to change that I want to go out and do things but I get an okay and nothing changes.

We had plans to spend the night at a hotel for NYE but had to cancel cause she need him on the hour by the hour 🙄. Our sex is always good but I’m checked out because if you can find time to have sex with me you can set aside more than an hour of your time!

We had a pregnancy scare but I’m thankful I’m not pregnant because I’d honestly leave this house. Myself nor my baby will sit there and be on the back burner. Not for no no one!!

!!! please no judgement!!

28F, maybe you other women my age don’t have this issue. I know I’m not a 10 but I’m told I’m cute/pretty & never get attention from quality guys in person. I get it every once in a while from the guys you don’t want, I’ve been told in the past that I’d get looked at but the guys never did anything about it (and sometimes those were actually the guys I’d consider). I’m on and off dating apps, on there I get the matches & msgs but it just doesn’t work out: I experience the typical ghosting, fizzling out, taking too long to reply etc. There were some times when one of us would admit we weren’t feeling it & while I was guilty of this sometimes, I just figured if I was really attractive I wouldn’t be having this issue. I’ll add that I’m reserved & not very friendly, also on the lower end when it comes to sex drive (which isn’t that uncommon for a woman). Don’t think those play a big part but figured I’d bring it up, I just think it’s kind of unfair & at the point where I’m feeling even less of an urge to try whenever I decide to download the apps again. I can’t help but think it’s not my fault 🤷🏻‍♀️