I’ve been living with my fiancé and his grandma for about 7 months now. Lately she has been getting even sicker (she’s on oxygen 24/7) so that also contributes to her having some breathing issues as well. It’s been a few days since she’s been back home from the hospital since her last visit not too long ago. Everything has been turned upside down!
No drama but everything is about her. I work full time M-F get home at 6pm so majority of my time is there since he doesn’t work but get $ monthly. She was already dependent on him but now it’s worse! He has to feed her, and walk her to the bathroom, clean up after her and clean the house all the time.
NYE was the first time in days we’ve spent more than 1 hr together.. IN THE SAME DAMN HOUSE!!! I’ve been asking him for months for dates, more than 2hrs of quality time, to get away from the house since his grandma is home ALLL the time!! We have no privacy and no peace and quiet at all cause he’s always chasing after her. Anytime we leave the house together it’s pretty much for her benefit not for a good time.
I don’t want to sound selfish but I’ve been helping him before her health declined but it makes me not want to help since there hasn’t been any balance in our relationship. It’s all about her and did I forget to add we’ve only slept in the same bed 5 times the whole 7 months I’ve been here.
I explain to him I want things to change that I want to go out and do things but I get an okay and nothing changes.
We had plans to spend the night at a hotel for NYE but had to cancel cause she need him on the hour by the hour 🙄. Our sex is always good but I’m checked out because if you can find time to have sex with me you can set aside more than an hour of your time!
We had a pregnancy scare but I’m thankful I’m not pregnant because I’d honestly leave this house. Myself nor my baby will sit there and be on the back burner. Not for no no one!!
!!! please no judgement!!
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Why are the other family members not helping take care of her? Why are you marrying a bum with no job? Your bum fiance needs to make his other family members step up and take turns helping take care of grandma
Because apparently have their own lives and don’t have “time” but he has all the time for smh. Honestly I didn’t know he wasn’t working until I actually moved here he avoided talking finances for so long. He says they’ll help when they can but he don’t trust them to help cause they always have an excuse as to why they can’t help
How the hell did you not know if the guy was working or not before you moved in with him? That sounds like you make poor decisions. Get the hell out of there. Next time try using your brain
Well people lie so I can’t control what people say and don’t say but ok
The fact that the guy didn't tell you he didn't have a job is shady
Be careful. Don't get trapped. You have your own life to lead. She's had hers.
Thank you! That’s what I’ve been saying