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I have my reasons why I'm still like this. I've been like this my whole and people find me weird for some odd reason. My high school years were the worst for me. Everyone used to judge me for no reason. Called me ugly and called me a boy. When clearly I was a girl. Boys knew I was a girl so why did the girls think I was a boy? My self esteem was so low back then and still is. I never did anything to anyone and nobody stayed my friend for long. Everyone from high school left me for no reason which really hurt me because I did nothing to them. Out of the blue one old “friend” texted me after 5 years. At that point I lost her number so I messaged “Who is this?” she never messaged me back. Some people really get on my nerves so that's the reason I'm silent. It's so hard to make friends nowadays because I was hurt years ago. Any advice would be really appreciated.

So probably some if you are gonna say “hey yeah women ask me out awesome 😃 I don’t have to do anything…”

They just come up to me. Let’s gooooo 🥳 but.. that is not how it works.

You may like someone. You may be uncertain if they like you. They may be really shy. They may take a long time to get to asking you out. They may play games. They may assume you don’t like them…You.. may be in limbo for months. & yeah, you can just move on but___how often have you REALLY been interested in someone and then just said OK I’ll just move on because you know, ‘they’re not saying anything’🫤

It’s normal and healthy to go after what you want within reason. and even if you have someone out and they say no, there’s a satisfaction in that there’s dignity and knowing that you made an effort, you did what you could you tried your best and now you haven’t answer and you can move on and get on with your life.

That is an entirely different feeling to just kind of waiting around and seeing nothing really happening. You’re not sure but you’re pretty sure.. it’s almost like you’re pretty much sure…finally you just kind of fade off into the future, without closure, Knowing you did nothing.

Maybe your dream girl will ask you out. Maybe she’ll do it fast, maybe not 🤷🏻‍♀️ the point is you relinquish agency to her.

Getting a yes, is absolutely the best thing but no is a very close. Second nothing or confusion is the absolute worst.

So I’m not asking you how would you enjoy being asked out—I’m saying how would you feel if it was socially unacceptable for you to ask women out. That maybe they will, maybe they won’t but you can’t do anything on your own or you can but then people will think you’re a loser and women won't date you because they think you’re weak or Desperate bc you ashes them out.

How would you feel in the situation? Try to be honest. You might like it but think about it realistically… the pros, the cons etc and tell me how you feel.

Thank you.