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My girlfriend is really close with her sister, but I'd wager they haven't gotten as close as we have, if you catch my drift.

So while one is clearly more intimate, which one takes precedence? We also spend every waking moment together and have for the past 3 years, while she sees her family only occassionally. Yeah, there's a blood tie, but she admits that her family is really rude and demeaning and she doesn't like spending too much time with them.

For my situation, her sister is extremely rude and just plain mean, so I don't want to spend time with her. Girlfriend is upset that I don't want to see her sister.

But, they are still family. And while we could break up, family is more reliable, sometimes.

I have decided to minimize my time around her family as much as possible, as they are a net-negative to my life. But, I fully support her spending whatever time she wants with them. I'm just wondering how much leeway I should have to bitch about it in the event it damages our relationship. Freedom of choice, sure, but none of us get to decide freedom of outcome resulting from our actions. Does family obviously come first? Or does your romantic partner of 3 years?

I'm asking because I'm not a father but my sister was saying how she'd much rather have done what my dad did than even raise one child. I completely disagree. I'm not a parent but I feel like even 60 hours at something I hate on behalf of my family is harder than raising 2 children I love. I do recognize that raising kids is like a job without pay, but you have food and shelter and more because your spouse loves you. Is that security not enough? Do you feel like you need luxury because of all that you do at home? After work, it's not like one person is doing everything although there is one primary homemaker.

Please share if you have experience. I'm not saying either is easy. I'm not saying either should be disrespected. I'm just saying that it feels like to me that people should be happy to be spending time with their children and should respect that someone else is willing to do something he/she hates to feed the family.

I really am open to hearing opinions though. Maybe I'm missing something. I love my sister too by the way but I just feel like she's disrespecting my dad by saying this. At one point, he actually worked without a day off for over a year, 85 hours/week, and they actually had 6 kids together. by the way I absolutely love my mom. She's my hero and she kept our family together, and my dad actually is far from the coolest person in the world but I still recognize what he did for our family.

Just in case you're wondering why I didn't use the numbers 85 hours and 6 kids, it's because those numbers are difficult for people to comprehend. Also, I'm thinking about my future, and I don't plan to have 6 kids or work 85 hours/week