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I have noticed this random guy gazing at me now and then. When I look back at him, he will smile and hold eye contact until I look away.
I eventually plucked up the courage to say hi to him last week. He was walking towards me and we both made eye contact and he smiled. So I decided to say hello. It was just a quick “hi you ok” as I walked past, and he smiled even more and looked down. I think he may have said hi back but I was gone by this point lol.

This is where I get very confused. Every day that I have seen him, we have been in close proximity and I have gone to say hi to him but he has been avoiding looking at me. To the point where he is actually turning his head in another direction just to avoid looking at me, despite me only being inches away from him.

Is he being all weird and shy?

I’m 40, she’s 39 and both of us spent way too much time navigating the dating world. We’ve both been told since turning 30 to date men 10 to 20 years older. I’ve been more open to it than she was. She’s still not open to it. She’s really pretty so her looks aren’t an issue, but she gets passed over and dumped CONSTANTLY by men our age for younger women and the last time really hurt her.

I started dating a man age 54 last year and have never been happier, and dating him taught me two things: 1.) it’s really true that men like to be a little bit older than their women and 2.) men need to feel lucky to have a woman in order for a relationship to work (my boyfriend and I both know how lucky we are to have each other, but he courted and pursued me like no man my own age ever did). My friend has not accepted this yet, and it’s such a shame because my boyfriend has a friend who is perfect for her. The guy met her one time and has been begging me ever since to set him up with her and he’s been pursuing her nonstop but she won’t give him a chance just because he’s 60. She says the age gap is too big and she won’t date him because he’s 20 years older even though he treats women really well, can give her the life and love she deserves and can also respect all of the wonderful qualities that she has to offer.

That man has outright told me that he wants someone our age. How can I make her see that women our age are better off with men that age?

She said the oldest she’ll date is 50.

Am I right when I say middle aged women in their late 30’s should be dating men in their late 50’s/early 60’s? Is she right that the age gap is too big?

I have been noticing this guy around work. He works in a different department to me and sometimes when we made eye contact, he would smile and hold his gaze. I would always be the first one to break eye contact. I eventually said hi to him and after that, he ignored me and avoided looking at me, like actually turning his head in the opposite direction.

Recently, he has started saying hi to me (he is the first one to say it) and I plucked up the courage to have a proper conversation with him, where I introduced myself.

The whole time, he had a big smile on his face and was fidgeting and moving closer towards me. He asked where I work and I told him which department and what time I finish. He said twice that he would have to come and check out my area.

The same day, my colleagues said they saw him walking past our office (10 mins after I left) and glaring into the office the whole time. And I’ve never seen him near our office.

Today, we said hi twice and the second time, he gave me a big smile when he saw me. When I was sat down in the canteen, I could see his reflection in the window and it looked like he was looking at me/in my direction.