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1) Able to be yourself? Do you feel like you have to put on a front with your SO? Also, how nervous are you when your guard drops? Lots of abused women report having to be “on guard” 24/7 in what they say, or act or even wear. Are you always exhausted with your SO? That may be a sign.
2) Do you laugh? Like most conversations, are you laughing with each other? You don’t have to be a comedian. We laugh and have fun talking about reality shows are whatever. But unhealthy SO’s don’t laugh as much. And unhealthy mates HATE laughing at themselves.
3) Do you fight? It’s ok to. I see it more as venting, as well as fixing the relationship. But how bad the fights get is key too. Also, how fast can you makeup?
4) Do they trust you? Are they going through your phone? Always scrolling through social media, sensitive to minor flirtations from others? Do they try to control your schedule? That’s them being insecure about themselves. And is abusive.

I’ve been with my girlfriend Linda for 2 years. I really love Linda but I’m not sure if she’s faithful. I’m uncomfortable with all her male friends, I’ve lost sleep over it. She brags that they want her and she refuses to cut them out of her life. She has this guy friend named Roscoe. They’re relationship is a bit sketchy. Linda has travelled to Miami with Roscoe in the past. I looked at Roscoes Instagram and didn’t like the comments I saw Linda post on his page 4 years ago. The comments said “I miss you😍”. Roscoe is another guy friend who wants her.

I don’t wanna break up with Linda but I don’t like being played either. 3 weeks ago she mentioned again how Roscoe wants her and protected her in Miami. I got so mad that I opened up an online dating profile, and started talking to a woman named Tracy in Toronto. I did this out of spite.

I honestly thought Tracy was gonna turn ghost like most women online. But then things got out of control and me & Tracy really started to connect. I face time Tracy everyday for an hour. I think I’m really starting to like Tracy and she’s falling in love with me. She’s willing to drive 8 hours to my city. I really enjoy her virtual company.

But now I’m starting to feel guilty because it’s not confirmed my girlfriend is cheating. What should I do?

Do you agree that you should OWN YOUR POWER! If you love someone then do you really need marriage? If your independent and self sufficient then should you retain that level of security and control over your future? Or do you think love conquers all?

Marriage is about the worst investment any wage earner, regardless of sex can make. Your significant other can rob, cheat, lie and steal from you and your on the hook to loose 50% of everything and still be paying for it financially years after the fact.

The concept of marriage is ruined in the modern age. Love, faith and morality does not hold up in court. The law is not moral or ethical in of it self, and it does not seek or intend to make itself so. Marriage is the only contract a person can make where the other person does not have to fulfill the terms of the agreement, and they still get paid in full! To battle it will cost you 10's of thousands in a court fight.

So as a man I say HELL YES its time for men to take their power back!!! But I am not just talking to men, women as well if you're a wage earner then you need to own your power and take control over your assets.

"I, Joe Doe, take thee, Jane Doe, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith."

All that means JACK DIDDLY-SQUAT in a court of law... they cheat, lie and steal from you and you're on the hook to pay without any return on the investment. Steer clear of the trap. If you have a strong and powerful relationship, then you have it better than half the married people with all the legal protections of the law. Get married and you lose that protection over your assets and you pay in nothing but loss of happiness and ass pain.