Guilt Tripped into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

This guy I met randomly with friends was super sweet we had a good time and we both agreed that we were not looking for anything just friends. We exchanged numbers and talked off and on for the past 4 months. We would hang and do random stuff like hiking watching movies parties etc. We were both cool with being just that.

He opened up about his past and shared that he had attempted to un-alive himself and that it was hard to be happy. He went as far as saying he was glad to have a friend like me because he is now happy. Fasforward weeks later and things have changed. He texts me constantly or calls and wants to know what I'm up to.

He told his friends and family there is a special girl in his life which I was blindsided by and now they are so happy that he finally found someone... I just played it off and said that I am wanting to be single and not wanting a relationship. I confronted him and expressed this is not what I want and he said he understood and that he is fine with being friends. Yet he still continues to treat me as if I am his girlfriend. His family in a way is begging me to be with him trying to welcome me and invite me to things. Which he gave them my number and now they include me in family dinners. I feel like I'm being guilt tripped into being in this odd relationship. When it was never a relationship I feel I am talking in circles.

Need advice on how to control the situation for my safety and his in a way that he won't come for me.

[In_Trance]

The problem here is your mentality. I don't know why but girls always have this underlying thought that they need to be liked by everyone even those that they don't want to be with. If you're not liked you feel like you're a bad person.
The reality is you don't need to be liked by everyone not everyone is meant to go through life with you and you're not a bad person.


That said, tell him to fuck right off and not to contact you anymore or you'll break his fingers.

[Asker]

Not sure if you read what I said but I do not care if I'm liked or not what I do care about is my safety. I would like to resolve it in a way that ensures my safety and his. Like I know I am not responsible for his actions if he does decide to un-alive himself but I am concerned that he might try to un-alive me as well. Trying to do it in a nice way before bringing in authorities if I have to. When people know where you live and work and your habits its concerning what they maybe capable of. I feel your suggestion would bring the worse out... no offense

[20yearsolder]

It's time for you to end it, change your phone number, it's not your responsibility for his happiness. His family probably wants him with you so they don't have to put up with his bullshit.

[Asker]

It's the fear level of how far it all may go. He knows where I live and work and my habits I just want to make sure that he won't try anything.

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him politely one more time that you don’t like him that way you just wanna be friends. If he still keeps pushing you then just ghost him and block him on social media.

[Asker]

Yeah just makes me nervous because he knows where I love and work and my habits. I'm scared he might try something. Trying to do it without authorities being involved because I know it will provoke him in a bad way. If I have to then I will

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t be scared. You can’t let him bully you. If he tries something bad they will put him in jail.

[Danny_dan92]

Walk back out of it

[flirtatiousgirl]

Leave him