Clearly she doesn't respect you. I would say you need to lay the law down, but it seems you're so weak that: (1) she wouldn't be terrified to message her ex, and (2) you've complained in such an utterly lukewarm way (it makes you feel "disrespected").
Honestly, I don't know what to tell you- she's already made up her mind that you're a weak guy, she can manipulate and demand of you what she wants, and she can do whatever she wants.
Even if you managed to give her an ultimatum that she buys, she's just going to go back to doing this, as she in her soul DOES NOT RESPECT YOU as a strong man to follow.
The only long-term solution is to kick her out, file for divorce, and cut all contact. Make sure you cover your bases with your roommate too, as she's probably going to accuse you of abuse (maybe even rape)- to manipulate you into being with her again.
If you don't salvage your life by doing this I promise you will never be happy, nor have a wife who respects you and adds value to your life.
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Okay so if she is threatening to leave you for another man she has already left in a sense, that is her straight up saying I have feelings for him and he is an option. No one wants to leave someone in the hardest time of their life but as a women I would want to have closure yes but be in a happy relationship as well, it just comes off like she is using you knowing her position it’s manipulation bottom line and it’s not healthy or fair to you. She wants what she wants this is important to to her, I would just start protecting your self by pulling away and not forcing anything at this point, you have every right to have a boundary but in this situation of life and death it’s so complicated you just may have to get ready to love her from a distance
Are you sure you're actually married and she isn't just letting you stick around? Cuz it sounds like as soon as she has a better offer, she's kicking you to the curb.
I'm sorry to say this, but I think your marriage is over. If this is the way she treating you and she's doing these things because it "makes her happy", then you don't have a relationship with her.
You need to have a serious conversation with her, or you need to find someone that will respect you.
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