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I’ve only been in this situation twice in my life and both were my happenstance. I didn’t try to set it up but rather coincidentally more than one woman liked me and they were fighting with each other over it.

I’ve been the opposite situation before and it really sucked. I have “won” a few but also “lost” a few. When I won it was because I was “sorta” attracted to the girl but almost always lost when I really liked the girl. Many women tend to be more attracted to the guy who is less interested in them

I am also not the type that plays dirty by throwing other guys under the bus. Reason being is I get turned off if another girl trash talks the other girl who was interested in me.

Some people think that is the way to go and don’t care. But I rather I want the girl to make a clear conscious decision on who to go with.

But I noticed a lot of women really get off on this love triangle bullshit. Some of them intentionally set it up. They don’t look at the long term consequences. They think the guy they reject will be just be happy and fine with a friendzone when it’s said and done. There is no medal or prize for second place in this game though. No other way around it. The rejected guy just needs to self respect himself and cut his losses. Disappear. But he takes a lot of pain in the process.

I am in a situation where this girl at work gives me all kinds of signals that she likes me. Whenever I go somewhere, she'd always catch me and smile to me a lot, being very sweet. I have noticed that she'd act such only to me. I also found her sweet, so I have asked her out for coffee but she was very hesitant and her mood and attitude changed towards me all of a sudden. She felt like embarrassed after that move. Then the day after she became kinda upset and turned off. I don't know. So then a week later, I have talked with her about why she was so turned off by me all of a sudden because it bothered me. I said that I felt jealous and insecure because she'd choose him over me etc. (Open communication). So she was sweet to me again. Wow... holy grail.

Also she seems to like another guy which made me feel jealous, insecure and very questioning. I know that such behaviour is a turn-off but it's mere human instinct and very normal. You just have to control the urge to seek validation by chasing. It's super duper difficult, I know. Everyone has had this feeling.

However, I have recently found out that she is actually taken after I have stumbled on her instagram page by coincidence. She had a name combination with a heart symbol.

So I assume that she already has someone which makes so much sense. Whenever I came closer to her (not physically of course), she gets turned off. And when I am absent and don't do the right move, she becomes disappointed and feels more attracted to me again.

Also, she seems to look at me very often in a curious and questioning way. I am so confused right now. And to the other guy, she is sweeter to him than to me. So right now, she is ignoring me now. It tears me up.

What I think: She is not happy in her current relationship, but is very scared of her boyfriend to say that open and directly to me of her situation. What do you think?