What does she expect from me and how can I deal with this?

[DenizLikesTennis]

I am in a situation where this girl at work gives me all kinds of signals that she likes me. Whenever I go somewhere, she'd always catch me and smile to me a lot, being very sweet. I have noticed that she'd act such only to me. I also found her sweet, so I have asked her out for coffee but she was very hesitant and her mood and attitude changed towards me all of a sudden. She felt like embarrassed after that move. Then the day after she became kinda upset and turned off. I don't know. So then a week later, I have talked with her about why she was so turned off by me all of a sudden because it bothered me. I said that I felt jealous and insecure because she'd choose him over me etc. (Open communication). So she was sweet to me again. Wow... holy grail.

Also she seems to like another guy which made me feel jealous, insecure and very questioning. I know that such behaviour is a turn-off but it's mere human instinct and very normal. You just have to control the urge to seek validation by chasing. It's super duper difficult, I know. Everyone has had this feeling.

However, I have recently found out that she is actually taken after I have stumbled on her instagram page by coincidence. She had a name combination with a heart symbol.

So I assume that she already has someone which makes so much sense. Whenever I came closer to her (not physically of course), she gets turned off. And when I am absent and don't do the right move, she becomes disappointed and feels more attracted to me again.

Also, she seems to look at me very often in a curious and questioning way. I am so confused right now. And to the other guy, she is sweeter to him than to me. So right now, she is ignoring me now. It tears me up.

What I think: She is not happy in her current relationship, but is very scared of her boyfriend to say that open and directly to me of her situation. What do you think?

Don't take her seriously. She is playing

She is not happy in her relationship but is scared to tell.

She might be a cheater and is a little adventurous

Other

[Texaskid1]

Simple.

You can deal with it by treating her a coworker and nothing more because that's what she is - a coworker. That she smiled at you means nothing- women will sometimes smile and look at men when the husband or boy friend are not around but one does not take that seriously.

Also, it is a good idea to never date anyone from work. It causes a lot of problems in the work place and becomes an unnecessary distraction. It can also look unprofessional. If you want to date a women do it with some one you do not work with. I know this based on cold , hard experience.

My 2 cents. Good luck!!!

[DenizLikesTennis]

I have de-attached from her as I have made great friends lately. I will move on, wish her the best and meet other amazing women that are willing to go out on a date with me. Because She is not the only one in the universe. There are more and more amazing out there

[Texaskid1]

Good!!!

[PJH359]

Dude you already answered your own questions in your description. I could provide a detailed and encouraging answer but I’m not in the mood. So here’s my short and to the point answer….. She’s a complete asshole, control freak and a cock tease. Walk away and don’t look back. It may very well be the best decision you ever made.