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I have been on dating sites before, and each time the vibe is good, we get into to asking questions about each other, messaging back quickly and everything is good. But as soon as I disclose that I’m a virgin and have never been in a relationship the vibe gets thrown off and they start messaging back slower or not messaging back at all. And before anyone says “why do you tell them you’re a virgin” or “why are you telling them you’ve never been in a relationship, I tell them because they ask and I’m not ashamed of either one. But I am starting to realize its becoming a problem because I haven’t been able to get into a relationship, I’m almost 22 and have never been in a relationship before, I can’t relate to people around me that are and it’s quite exhausting not to mention embarrassing.

My question is: Are men who are experienced in dating and sexually, scared to be with a women that has never been in a relationship and still is a virgin?

So probably some if you are gonna say “hey yeah women ask me out awesome 😃 I don’t have to do anything…”

They just come up to me. Let’s gooooo 🥳 but.. that is not how it works.

You may like someone. You may be uncertain if they like you. They may be really shy. They may take a long time to get to asking you out. They may play games. They may assume you don’t like them…You.. may be in limbo for months. & yeah, you can just move on but___how often have you REALLY been interested in someone and then just said OK I’ll just move on because you know, ‘they’re not saying anything’🫤

It’s normal and healthy to go after what you want within reason. and even if you have someone out and they say no, there’s a satisfaction in that there’s dignity and knowing that you made an effort, you did what you could you tried your best and now you haven’t answer and you can move on and get on with your life.

That is an entirely different feeling to just kind of waiting around and seeing nothing really happening. You’re not sure but you’re pretty sure.. it’s almost like you’re pretty much sure…finally you just kind of fade off into the future, without closure, Knowing you did nothing.

Maybe your dream girl will ask you out. Maybe she’ll do it fast, maybe not 🤷🏻‍♀️ the point is you relinquish agency to her.

Getting a yes, is absolutely the best thing but no is a very close. Second nothing or confusion is the absolute worst.

So I’m not asking you how would you enjoy being asked out—I’m saying how would you feel if it was socially unacceptable for you to ask women out. That maybe they will, maybe they won’t but you can’t do anything on your own or you can but then people will think you’re a loser and women won't date you because they think you’re weak or Desperate bc you ashes them out.

How would you feel in the situation? Try to be honest. You might like it but think about it realistically… the pros, the cons etc and tell me how you feel.

Thank you.