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When you are young, and especially the first time, the decision to move in together is exciting. If you are living with your parents, you will finally be out from under their watchful eye. You will be spending EVERY night with your sexual partner. Not only is it romantic, but it is a sign to others (and yourself) that you are moving into the arena of adult relationships, instead of just the hanging out/dating, home by midnight or 1 am that teens do, but. . .

something that many couples don't consider is the psychological consequences of moving into HIS place vs. moving into HER place vs. getting a new place that the two of you move into together. Economics or other considerations may dictate that you move into his or her existing space, but that doesn't always work so well.

She moves into his place and wants to redecorate but he already has his place EXACTLY the way that he wants it. Or he moves into her place and can't stand the sixteen stuffed animals on her bed but she's had them since she was a little kid. Or you get into an argument and suddenly, he says, "This is my place, so why don't you get the hell outta here?"

Moving into your own place solves some of those problems and gives you an initial task to work on together, and you are more likely to create a space that is not yours, and not his (or hers) but it is your space together.

How did this work out when you moved in with your SO?

I'm starting a career hopefully in the coming year as after I visit my long distance girlfriend with my vacation time which took me 2 years to get, I intend to send in my application to the academy. I'll be seeing her in August but the application review could take a long time before they accept me and put me into an academy class.

I wanted to move out earlier but rent has gone up literally 5 fold and I can't even come close to being able to afford my own place now and it's only getting worse, so for at least a few more years, I'm stuck living with my parents still.

My parents have never been happy together throughout my life and they've had domestic disputes before, some of which my dad broke items in the house. Since they made 2 friends, they've been going out literally every night and getting shithoused at the bar. Then they'd come home separately and have a drunken argument that's about as intelligent as you can expect from two people in their 50s with the maturity of toddlers.

My dad at one point spent over $3,000 in alcohol in one night and then that same night spent another $2,000 at a strip club. Yes, a strip club and came home giggling as if he'd done nothing wrong. My dad sometimes purposefully causes conflict because he wants to feel in control, it's not uncommon for him to drop the N word and once said it literally over 100 times in one night, which is ironic seeing as how he's black.

They've acted so childish and stupid that it's become hilarious to me and my girlfriend when I tell her about their behavior, also holding it up as a perfect example of how me and her are not. I sometimes joke to her that at least they're presenting a perfect example of how not to have a happy relationship.

Do you ever laugh at your parents arguing?