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I was out with a group of friends, during the night my friend met up with her cousin and her friends, there was a guy in the group who was drop down my dream guy during the night I saw him looking over at our table and making eye contact with me and smiling. I presumed he was just being friendly.

Later in the night as we were all leaving his friend (who is also a girl) shouted across to say I was gorgeous, and she loved my hair, he was standing with her smiling and held eye contact. It could have been me but I felt he was interested, but I'm not sure if he is just a sweet and friendly guy. As we were leaving he hung back and walked across with me smiling while my friends joked about me being gorgeous (he was laughing and smiling the entire time). We didn't say much together when we walked alongside each other. I walked in behind him and he held the door for me, a guy came into my face to chat me up and he was holding the door for me smiling again and waited until I went in and brushed off the other guy and ran inside. As we went into the bar he stayed standing near me by the wall while his friends went to the bar, again another guy came up and he smiled again.

Throughout the night I would keep catching his eye but he never once tried to make a move or talk to me. My friends thought his friend was trying to give him a pep talk but he never did come up to me. What do ye think?

I’m 40, she’s 39 and both of us spent way too much time navigating the dating world. We’ve both been told since turning 30 to date men 10 to 20 years older. I’ve been more open to it than she was. She’s still not open to it. She’s really pretty so her looks aren’t an issue, but she gets passed over and dumped CONSTANTLY by men our age for younger women and the last time really hurt her.

I started dating a man age 54 last year and have never been happier, and dating him taught me two things: 1.) it’s really true that men like to be a little bit older than their women and 2.) men need to feel lucky to have a woman in order for a relationship to work (my boyfriend and I both know how lucky we are to have each other, but he courted and pursued me like no man my own age ever did). My friend has not accepted this yet, and it’s such a shame because my boyfriend has a friend who is perfect for her. The guy met her one time and has been begging me ever since to set him up with her and he’s been pursuing her nonstop but she won’t give him a chance just because he’s 60. She says the age gap is too big and she won’t date him because he’s 20 years older even though he treats women really well, can give her the life and love she deserves and can also respect all of the wonderful qualities that she has to offer.

That man has outright told me that he wants someone our age. How can I make her see that women our age are better off with men that age?

She said the oldest she’ll date is 50.

Am I right when I say middle aged women in their late 30’s should be dating men in their late 50’s/early 60’s? Is she right that the age gap is too big?