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I've been with a few guys that have been exceptional in the past. They were so respectful, they treated me like a princess, they made me feel so special and secure. Unfortunately, things didn't work out, mostly because of bad timing, unhealed traumas, relocations... Now I feel like it's so hard to settle down with someone new, even if they're absolutely great. I really want to be in a relationship, but I can't find anyone that meet my expectations anymore. My friends say I'm too picky and should compromise more. Even when I meet someone very nice, smart, handsome, I feel like I can't be with anyone less than outstanding. But at the same time, I've grown so tired of spending my time looking around and I really start to feel lonely. I don't know what to do. Both options feel risky, because if I keep my standards so high, I might end up all alone, but if I settle down for less, I might be missing out on something greater. Have anyone been through this?

Friday night, my friend texted me just hi. I replying hi how are you. She said, “Stressed”. I asked what was wrong and she said she has so much in her mind and worrying about her problems and explained everything while I listened to her. I told her I was hear for her. I told her about my math class I’m stressing about too but she didn’t respond to that. I asked her why she didn’t ask how I am and she scolded that everyone has their own problems to deal with and they’re not going to always ask about my grief or how I am doing. She said I ALWAYS do this, making conversations about myself. Then she had the audacity to tell me I’m being insensitive about throwing in that I started my math class and it shows I don’t care enough about listening to HER problems. I was changing the subject to relax her stress. She told me to have a nice life and just dumped me as a friend.

I have heard about it. Men saying that it is women mistake if she is single is her 30s or late 20s. but how?

Because she was dating good looking dude? So women shouldn't date someone who they find attractive? Because for some reason a good looking can pump and dump you?

I mean if I started relationship with long term intention. Then isn't it his mistake if he lie?

And they always talk about giving chance to uglier nice guy. But how do you know if this niceness is fake or real. And ugly guy are capable of doing too. And second I used to be fat. I was bullied by guys because of it. I seriously don't want to have kids with a ugly dude. Because it could mean a ugly daughter. And ugly women suffer.

And why would I date someone if there is 0 attraction. Men never do it. Why should women?

If I like his personality but don't find him attractive. Then he would be a friend. I like many men and women personality. Lol

Men always imagine that it happen because women were only into short term relationship. Dude I never have been in short term relationship. Have 0 interest in hook up. But it is possible that I might be single at 30s. because men lie/cheat/abuse you. I don't think it would be good idea to stay with a guy if he beat me. Because he can beat our kids too. I don't want that for my kid's. How is my mistake if he lied about being interested in long term relationship? Or cheat?

I have been working at my current company for almost 2 and a half years now. I've recently developed a crush on a colleague, but we've always had a flirty relationship. However, due to our situations, it would be almost impossible to have a relationship together. He's always been lovely to me and the flirting included things like him doing silly things to get my attention, staring at me, prolonged/strong eye contact, going out of his way to help me, seeming jealous about other men, organising the gifts/cards for my 30th birthday etc etc. I've always felt fairly confident that he felt the same way.

HOWEVER, a few weekends ago, we met up on a night out. I had too much to drink and I ended up telling him that I really liked him as more than a friend. I asked him if he liked me back, to which he said "you're a lovely person". I kept asking him, being persistent with it - he kept repeating “you’re a lovely person” and I eventually said "just answer the question", to which he replied "yes, I do but we can't be together etc". I think we had a few quick kisses on the lips, not a proper kiss, but a peck.

The day after, I apologised to him for potentially putting him in an awkward position, to which he said "don't worry about it".

The next week at work, he apparently wasn't aware of what happened. I told him that I had kissed him and he looked shocked, saying "that's not ideal, I wouldn't have kissed you properly". For the rest of the week, he barely spoke to me and was hot and cold in his behaviour towards me.

He has gotten better but he doesn't flirt with me like he used to before all this happened. He has shown being jealous because he overheard me saying I was going on a date. I saw him look in my direction and when I told him to have a nice weekend, he abruptly said “bye”

Was there any truth in him telling me that he likes me? Does he still like me? If so, why is he being weird?

I have a crush on one of my colleagues. We flirt like crazy and we are close. Would you consider this jealous behaviour?

- I was telling my manager that I was going out on a date. In the corner of my eye, I saw him look over in my direction. When I said “have a nice weekend”, he just said “bye” abruptly whereas he would normally say “you too”

- I was putting some lip balm on and he joked saying, “putting makeup on for the new guy?”

- When I got a lift to work from another guy, because of bad weather - he called me a “wimp”. The next day I asked him for some help and he responded with “why don’t you ask (name of guy who gave me a lift to work)?”

- When I’m laughing and joking with a male colleague, he goes quiet and doesn’t really interact

- He was offering me a lift to the staff do and I politely declined because someone else was talking me. He then asked me if I didn’t trust his driving

I have a flirty relationship with a coworker. I have a huge crush on him and I’m pretty confident he feels the same way.

Yesterday, as I was leaving, my manager was asking what I’m up to this weekend. I told her that I had a date tonight. I could see the guy in the corner of my eye, and I saw that he looked in my direction as I said that.

I then said to him and my colleagues “have a nice weekend all”, to which he abruptly said “bye” when normally he would say “you too” etc.

Was he being jealous?