My friend told me I was being a bad friend and insensitive when she told me she’s stressed. Is she right about me or wrong?

[Anonymous]

Friday night, my friend texted me just hi. I replying hi how are you. She said, “Stressed”. I asked what was wrong and she said she has so much in her mind and worrying about her problems and explained everything while I listened to her. I told her I was hear for her. I told her about my math class I’m stressing about too but she didn’t respond to that. I asked her why she didn’t ask how I am and she scolded that everyone has their own problems to deal with and they’re not going to always ask about my grief or how I am doing. She said I ALWAYS do this, making conversations about myself. Then she had the audacity to tell me I’m being insensitive about throwing in that I started my math class and it shows I don’t care enough about listening to HER problems. I was changing the subject to relax her stress. She told me to have a nice life and just dumped me as a friend.

She’s so wrong

You’re so wrong

[TheNameDoesntMatter]

I rather not vote on the poll because in my opinion everything was doing alright until you asked her why she didn't ask you how you are. In my opinion by the way that you address this problem its evident that the age you have on your profile is false. You can be older or younger than me but I'll tell you something it is immature that your ex friend broke off the friendship just for a simple situation. That shows that she probably didn't value the friendship much, but that's beside the point. Your fault only lies on you demanding her to ask, changing the conversation into a confrontative tone when she tried to reach a person of trust to express her sentiments. Your ex friend isn't very reasonable either saying that "everyone has their own problems to deal with and they’re not going to always ask about my grief or how I am doing", contradicting her own actions by a lot. If she doesn't want to carry with your stress, why do you have to carry with hers. She expects to receive but not to give back. The math class thing was also just a comment to drive the convo into another lane, if that was the point she should feel obligated to reply. I feel that you both have a lot to learn and know that sometimes you have to let a friendship go because they are bringing you down. If that is not the case, and you value your friendship, luckily both sides will try to reach out and talk about what happened. This is not a her fault or my fault thing you expressed the necessity to see who was right or wrong. But with what purpose, being victorious about winning a immature battle or regretting your actions. Both of you messed up but what you do with that information is up to you. If something happens I'll be waiting for a follow up, I am only trying to help.

[BoopBoopBeep]

MHO right here. I couldn't really add anything after that.

[IslaTheWitch]

People will always have opinions about you. Be open-minded enough to listen to them but also critical enough to find what is just their whining and what a real complaint is...

[lovelyla7]

I think she was looking for advice so she took you redirecting the conversation as dismissive. The bright side is maybe your friend or “ex friend” just told you something about yourself that you didn’t notice. Do you always make things about Yourself? If so & you value the friendship you can apologize, just tell her you never realized that. If not keep it moving because nobody has time for unnecessary drama in their lives lol. Good luck with your studies 😎

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a lot of work.

[Asker]

She is!!! I mean I told her I’m there for her but she is a brat

[strateguy632]

1st.