Am I being a bad friend?

[Anonymous]

My friend called me and asked me to attend Church with him at the last minute. In general, he tends to ask to hang out without any notice. I don't have a hectic life but I am in school and working full-time so sometimes the timing is off and I have to decline. Like today he called me an hour before wanting to go to Church which didn't leave much time for me to get ready. Plus I am trying to write a paper today that is due tomorrow.

Sometimes I feel he is not a good friend. I am going to be having surgery next month and need someone to pick me up from the hospital. I asked him and was told if he's in town he'll do it. It was a bit disappointing because he knows I don't have many people to count on. Whenever there is something going on with him I am there even financially. Sometimes I noticed when I text or call him he may not answer or reply or take a long time to respond. Though recently he reached out to me asking where I had been. I had stopped texting/calling him because I got tired of no response.

What are your thoughts? Am I overreacting or am I a bad friend or is he?

[Guy13]

No you are not being a bad friend.

[Guy13]

You are doing him a favor. I would have not even entertained the idea of going given last minute disrespectful way that he engaged you. Are you in school too.-Does he know this❓

[Asker]

Yes, he knows I am in school. He has a way of making me feel guilty when I decline as if my time is less valuable than his. But, I have continued the friendship because initially he was there for me during some tough times. But, in more recent years things feel one sided. It's not odd for him to call me same day to go somewhere usually wanting me to drive. I feel sad that our friendship seems to have taken a turn. He even called me a hoe one day because I had slept with a guy about a month or so of knowing him. This guy did turn out to be bad for me as my friend had warned but when I told him his label of me was harsh he didn't see my perspective.

[Guy13]

Does not sound like a win-win possibility. Is it time to totally sever and move-on ❓

[Asker]

I have contemplated moving on or just stop thinking of him as a good friend and treat him more like a distant associate. Thanks for your feedback by the way.

[Guy__]

No you are not being a bad friend.