How to date again when you've met perfect guys in the past?

[Anonymous]

I've been with a few guys that have been exceptional in the past. They were so respectful, they treated me like a princess, they made me feel so special and secure. Unfortunately, things didn't work out, mostly because of bad timing, unhealed traumas, relocations... Now I feel like it's so hard to settle down with someone new, even if they're absolutely great. I really want to be in a relationship, but I can't find anyone that meet my expectations anymore. My friends say I'm too picky and should compromise more. Even when I meet someone very nice, smart, handsome, I feel like I can't be with anyone less than outstanding. But at the same time, I've grown so tired of spending my time looking around and I really start to feel lonely. I don't know what to do. Both options feel risky, because if I keep my standards so high, I might end up all alone, but if I settle down for less, I might be missing out on something greater. Have anyone been through this?

Keep looking, the prince charming will come eventually

Settle down for less and make it work

Updates

2 mo

My expectations are not unrealistic, as they are based on past experiences that did exist. They are just very hard to find.

[Anonymous]

Keep looking. But don’t be so demanding. Yes you’re allowed to have standards, but remember that men are too. The top trier men also have options and will probably go for the best option. You don’t need to worry about impressing all men. Most men aren’t right for you, you need to focus on your soulmate.

You’re basing things on past experiences. If you expect a man to be the same man as you dated before. All men and women are different. So I’m sorry. You’re not going to find a man just like who you have dated before.

You should not be with someone who you would not be happy with. But if your standards are super high and you don’t offer the same in return. Yes, a lot of those men will leave and find women who have more to offer.

You need to pray about it. Be the best woman you can be. Be the type of woman that a man like that would want an desire. Because there is a lot of women who demand a lot… But don’t offer a lot in return. I am NOT saying you’re like that. But unfortunately for them a lot of those men leave and find women with more to offer in return.

[Anonymous]

Most women have no idea of their true perceived value concerning how men see them. That is likely the issue. You said 'My expectations are not unrealistic, as they are based on past experiences that did exist' but your perceived value in that past is not the same as your perceived value is today. Thus your expectations are high, but does your perceived value match those expectations?

These are the things few women dare ask themselves.

[boggboss]

Lol you have ti decide asking others to pick for u is pointless either keep your expectations of a partner that seem near impossible to find or be more realistic if u can only accept perfect more likely then not u will die alone

[boggboss]

Someone may also won the lottery in their lifetime but if they expect to win it again would be unrealistic just because u found it a few times in the past don't mean u will find it again realisticly finding someone that checks every box and is outstanding is vary unrealistic

[strateguy632]

be realistic, don't expect perfect just "good enough" we all have baggage.

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you mean by that?