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My fiancé and I have a large age gap (I am 28 and he is 50) and other differences but we have a strong emotional connection that holds us together. I don’t know why but even though he says he wants to be with me, he isn’t very expressive or affectionate. He doesn’t compliment me ever. I may tell him things I like about him but he is never able to answer when I ask the same in return. Or I will compliment him on his physical attributes but he will say things like your lips are fine or this is average. You could do better if you put work in. Etc. I don’t really get it because he is pretty average looking and not my normal type but I really love him and have gone out of my way to prove it. I can’t tell if he really doesn’t like me but still wants to get married for convenience or if he is just bad at expressing but every time I try communicating this, he ignores me or diverts. Even though he is close to 50, makes less than me and has been divorced 3 times he tells me he is a catch but never makes me feel like he is lucky to have me. I don’t feel loved or understood by him and it hurts a lot. I don’t understand why he acts so indifferent. The only times I’ve seen him not like that is when other men give me attention and then he gets really nasty and jealous. He has called me a slut, whore, etc before out of that possessiveness. And when we sleep together, it is always passionate. But in the day to day, he acts very indifferent and I am trying to understand why. Any ideas or understanding? An outside perspective would be much welcome please. Thanks in advance ;-(

Been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years, we see each other a couple times each month.

Got into a small argument over the phone and he said he wanted to end the conversation. He's about to hang up and I asked "were you not going to say I love you?" I usually have to initiate saying I love you after arguments so I was hoping he would say it this time.

He gets angry and asked why I'm controlling what he says and when he says it. He says pretty rudely "I don't know about you but when I'm angry I don't want to say that. I don't want to say anything. Why can't I say I love you later when I've calmed down?"

Because what if there's not a next time? What if something happens to us and the last thing we did was argue without saying I love you? I thought saying I love you regardless showed maturity and that you really loved each other.

But I guess I'm the crazy one

Plus, we had agreed early on in the relationship to not be petty and always make sure the other person knows that we love each other. I'm honestly really hurt.