My new boyfriend is super sweet kind caring and absolutely amazing!
Although, sometimes he does bring up his ex. Most of the times, we’ll be talking about something specific, ex: does everyone receive a birthday present in your family? And he’ll answer “my brother and his girlfriend will normally get me a present and my ex and I used to get him one”. Another example would be “I only let 3 people drive my car, my dad my brother and my ex” or “my ex and I used to fight pretty badly and I didn’t like that”.
I personally don’t feel too worried in the sense that he doesn’t always bring her up or directly compare us. He introduced me to his entire family, always tries to get to know me as much as possible. I think it’s normal to compare your partner to your ex to a certain extent because you’re going based off of experience and sometimes want to avoid repeating the same mistakes. He’s always been completely honest even if there’s a chance it would hurt my feelings but every time I ask him if he’s over her, he says yes and that that chapter is closed.
Am I seeing this properly? Any advice? Just want to make sure I’m seeing things clearly :)
Although, sometimes he does bring up his ex. Most of the times, we’ll be talking about something specific, ex: does everyone receive a birthday present in your family? And he’ll answer “my brother and his girlfriend will normally get me a present and my ex and I used to get him one”. Another example would be “I only let 3 people drive my car, my dad my brother and my ex” or “my ex and I used to fight pretty badly and I didn’t like that”.
I personally don’t feel too worried in the sense that he doesn’t always bring her up or directly compare us. He introduced me to his entire family, always tries to get to know me as much as possible. I think it’s normal to compare your partner to your ex to a certain extent because you’re going based off of experience and sometimes want to avoid repeating the same mistakes. He’s always been completely honest even if there’s a chance it would hurt my feelings but every time I ask him if he’s over her, he says yes and that that chapter is closed.
Am I seeing this properly? Any advice? Just want to make sure I’m seeing things clearly :)
What Guys Said
Yep. He is still connected to his Ex and competing with another’s past and fond memories is never good. You really can’t say much about it either. Tough situation for you !!
I mean everyone has a past. I also have good memories about my ex, but it doesn’t mean that I’m not over them
I am totally with you on that. I don't like playing games but I might put some distance between us and see if he will inquire about it. He needs to be told and given an opportunity to change behavior and choose you over he? Guessing !!
I don't see a problem, except you should stop asking if he is over her.
Will do! Thank you!
No, that all seems fine to me.
Ok!! Thank you!
You’re welcome.