How long does it take for a guy to get over his ex?

[pure7]

I know this depends on a lot of factors. But I'm really curious.

Who decided to break up? How long was the relationship? And when did you get over your ex?
If you want, you can add more details ♡

[Anonymous]

Actually a research involving a large sample of men has demonstrated that men (unlike women) will never completely get over a breakup. While they might look OK shortly after the breakup, after some time the pain develops and it never completely disappears. Men also usually do not have such an extensive support network of friends like women who help them emotionally.

[DeterMind]

Obviously since we were Young it won't be the same as a normal relationship, but we were together about 13 months, and it took me about 6 months. She broke up with me, and she actually never told me why. Maybe I'm a shitty guy for not knowing, but to this day I don't know why.

[pure7]

You might get closure if you got a reason for the breakup?

[DeterMind]

Or just self conscious about that reason. But I suppose I won't find out. We don't talk anymore except for once a while back when I needed to inform her of something we were both involved in.

[Duke07]

Well once im done thats it im done. I may miss certian things but truthfully it wouldn't matter cause what they did to me was not worth them being in my life at all. No room for cheaters. So haven't met a girl I'd have a hard time getting over and if i did I'd probably do what i could to make the relationship work cause id view her as a person thats worth it.

[no_name_zac]

When my X broke up with me, we had been dating for about 5 months, I didn't get over it for a while but that was a year ago and now we are just friends. But it depends on the person, some people can get over relationships very quickly whereas others can take a very long time

[Effably]

Going by what I know personally and from friends, it seems we can't really get over the ones that mattered most. Save for, if we replace them.
Not sure how true that holds but it is the operating assumption I have. Seems to always be the determining factor.

[curiousscorpio89]

My stb ex wife told me she wanted a divorce 3 1/2 months ago. I'm still heartbroken. I spent 3 months trying to talk her out of it. The last 2 weeks I have finally decided to try and move on, or at least stop trying. but it's still affecting my life in a major way. Our divorce will be finalized in late July. I don't know when I will finally move on. I suppose I should start trying to date, might help me get her off of my mind.

[cth96190]

My first girlfriend broke my heart about 40 years ago.
After she skipped town with a scumbag bad boy, I found out that she had used a year-long relationship with me to conceal from her parents her secret relationship with the scumbag.
She destroyed me.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how much he loved her and how long they were together. It's been a year and a half, and I'm still not over mine and we only dated for 2 years. Never loved anyone as much as her. Before that it took half a year to get over one I'd been with for 3.5 years. I didn't love her nearly as much. If he meets someone better, it can cut the time short if he falls in love with her.

[TangoCharliePDX]

For me, for someone I fell hard for, it was a solid three years. Happened twice. It might have been healthy for me to date more during that time, but but would have taken someone patient and nurturing, who went in with an understanding of where I was coming from.

[Nick657]

Not too long if he meets the next girl who comes very close to the guy. Its all lonliness which will make him think about her ex again and again but when he gets another good company then the other girl will takeover her place in his life

[brendon76]

I’d say if it was a hard break up it might be 4 to 6 months. Not that he doesn’t want to move on before that but that she may still pop into his mind from time to time without wanting the memories to.

[LokiWhite]

I honestly doubt I could. I am 9 months into a relationship, and have been planning the proposal for 8. She's the one, and if I lost her then that would just be it for me

[daddybob777]

my first love was at 13. her name was wendy and we didn't break up we just moved from each other. i still wonder how she is doing. did she move on, does she still think of me and so forth. if i do ever find her and find out she's single would drop the person im with right now to go be with her

[zulfiqarali]

When men love they never forget... although time put dust on memories and things changed but when men really love they not forget

[sunnygustovson]

Depends on the seriousness, tenure and depth of the relationship. Also how soon someone else peaks his interest.

[Zak_Viel]

Maximum 2 years if he is putting effort to get over her, this was scientifically studied with all the chemical stuff that goes on in the brain

[Ayer93]

If she broke up with me, it means she's lost feelings for me and that makes me lose feelings for her. If I broke up with her same thing, but vice versa. No point dwelling on it. Move and and find someone more suited for you.

[Joshffx]

It's been 3 years and I'm still in love with my ex we have no contact haven't seen her in 2 years but still love her more than I've loved anyone

[Spaceman1985]

For me, getting over my ex-wife of 9.5 years took a very long time... I still think about her and the memories we made from time to time. We broke up in January of 2015, so just over 3 years ago.

[Titan123]

She dumped me we were together for three years knew each other 2 years before then and I guess roughly now is when I have started to let go of my feelings for her. A year after she dumped me

[pure7]

Must have been rough :( im glad things have healed in a way so you can move on and let go

[Titan123]

Yeah but now trusting girls is a lot harder.

[JoeVilly]

It really depends on how much they cared for the person. Also how bad the reason for breaking up was. If I got cheated on. I'm ready forget whatever I put behind me, and move on.

[Acegoolah]

As soon as he realizes there are way more people out there who like him.

[BurialBlade]

2 years and counting for me. Things went badly but from things that wasn't directly our fault. I'm trying to move on but i can never forget the happiness she gave me

[JutaJia]

It's me who decided to break up and it was only around half year relationship.
Even I'm the one who decided it still took me almost three months to get over it (well it kidda complicated.) and another half year to fully recover.

[owens97]

depends on the girl but for me first ex im nearly over her I think yea lots of damage done there second im over and third im glad i brokeup with her

[loveprince5683]

Love your love as hight of love you love him, if they break your faith and doesn't have care for you then let him go. But mind that compromises and understanding matters.

[rats20]

Depends on how deeply you were involved with him/her.. not necessarily on a physical level.. emotional attachment is what keeps lingering.. even after you have supposedly moved in.. the kick of that old feeling keeps haunting...

[Chrisdl]

I've only ever had 3 serious relationships and i was over it within the hour (I'm emotionally detached so it's easy)

[chc0009]

I don't have an ex. Do you know how hard it is to impress women these days? One in a million.

[pure7]

Yeah dating is kinda hard nowadayss :/

[Steve7890]

Depends on the guy

That can go from 1 day to several years

[Hacker57]

It really depends. If the guy broke up with the girl then it shouldn't be long. If it's the other way around it really depends on the guy

[BeenShook]

I broke it off with her. We were together for a little more than 3 years. That was about 2 years ago and I'm still not over it