I know this usually depends on how long the relationship was. Regardless, how long did it take? Because I have a feeling I'm not going to be getting over this for a couple of years, really. I'm that slow at recovering. My last one wasn't even a relationship or an official date and it took 1.5 years. I'm not the type that jumps from guy to guy, either. (I tried and I felt even more miserable. Forget that.)
If it took a long time for you, how did you cope (what did you do)? (preferably not answers like rebounding off other chicks/dudes).
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I think the best advice I've had in terms of how to cope is just to remember:
You will feel better. And that's worth waiting for. You know how it feels to be really happy with someone and you will feel that again one day, when the time is right. Except that next time, the guy will be more attractive, more interesting and nicer! ( I still can't imagine meeting someone that I like more than my ex, but I know that day will come eventually and it will take me by surprise!)
I think it's hard when you see people around you, or particularly your ex, moving on really quickly and not seeming to need any time to get over you, whilst we are stuck agonising for months or years and waking up crying every morning and not sleeping at night etc...
I try also to think of the Buddhist idea that life is suffering, ie life includes pain, loneliness, disappointment etc and that is something to be accepted.
Also to try to live in the present, just taking each day as it comes (again I find this hard because it's much easier to escape into an imagined future!)
Hang on in there, things are only going to get better!1