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My girlfriend is an alcoholic, I have been with her for 5 years and living together for a year.

Her problems worsened around the time of the pandemic and her depression has worsened since then and she has become dependent on alcohol.

She will be fine when I leave for work in the morning but when I come home in the evening she will be semi conscious on the floor and there will be 2-3 empty bottles in the recycling.

Way back (approx 10-12 years ago?) her father cheated on her mother and broke up the family unit. Years later her mother is now back living with the father though they are NOT in a relationship.

We have had numerous interactions with medical professionals and one issue that keeps coming up is the break up of the family caused by her father's infidelity and lying she says "he broke my heart".

I have tried to involve her parents in her recovery by keeping them informed and have asked the father to engage in counselling with my girlfriend to try and get her past this. She had had counselling for this issue for the past decade but he never engaged with her on it and no-one in the family is allowed to talk about it.

Her father has now taken a very aggressive stance towards me since I raised the subject. He has asked me to leave his daughter and suggested she break up with me as I am a 'Toxic' person. My question is do I stay and fight it out to get her the closure I really believe she needs or do I leave which will mean at 35 she goes back to living with her mother and father? I'm at a loss to know as I love her but not the person the alcohol is making her become.

Hi everyone, I would like to share what I have experienced in Europe to spread some awareness, even though some of u guys may have already experienced this. I went to the UK two months back for my month long university overseas immersion program. After that I met with my parents to embark on our extended European tour by joining a tour group. One day on a road trip from France, our bus stopped over at a rest and relax stop. What caught my attention was the long queue forming outside of the ladies, with many women eagerly waiting for their turn to use the toilet. However, as I went to the gents, I saw a middle aged lady used my toilet and I presumed she did not ask the men in the toilet for permission to use, since I did not hear her ask. I understand she is urgent but I would appreciate if she respects basic social etiquette to at least ask. Moreover the toilet is designated for males not her, and it’s only polite to ask. This applies for men as well, if their toilets are full, they should ask the ladies before using their toilet. But that is not the case. At a McDonald’s restaurant in Germany, I saw an old women waiting outside the gents but left shortly after. I brushed it off thinking she could have queued at the wrong toilet. However as I entered there is a single occupied cubicle and I waited for my turn, a person hesitated to came out but still came out later. It was later known to be a young lady who just came out like no one’s business. I am also sure that the ladies isn’t full. At Palace of Versailles in Paris, France, the same situation happened where at least 50 ladies queued to use the toilet. However, a small handful still did the shameless act of barging into our toilet without seeking permission, presumably some of those men still peeing at the urinals at that moment. This is a clear violation of privacy and a breach of social etiquette. It seems like those women do not have basic courtesy taught to them by their parents since young and it irks me.