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I’m 23 and she is 22. We are both doing an international internship and work together, we’re both leaving at the end of August.

I can’t tell if she likes me or is just being nice. We’ve been out together (not just us) multiple times and the way she makes me feel is just nothing I’ve ever felt before. I found out that I might not work with her anymore due to certain reasons meaning she might have to leave. When I found out last Sunday it ruined my whole day and I still feel the sick-like feeling now.

On Monday we went out to drink at a rooftop bar. It was me, Person 2 (gay guy), Person 3 (girl), and her. I wanted to buy her a drink but decided to get everyone a shot to not make it weird. I was only planning to stop by quickly but she said she would buy me a drink at the next place they are going to, so I decided to stay. I was telling her about how work isn’t the same without her etc, and just catching up with her. Anyway, I stayed and went to the next place with her and the two other people, and we finished around 5am. Me and her were buying each other drinks all night. We actually went to a gay club as that was the closest. Whenever a guy tried dancing with me, she would get close to me and dance with me. When a girl tried dancing with her, I would try to do the same without being creepy as I don’t know if she feels the same way about me.

She had mentioned she wanted to get lunch with the group (the 4 people that went out). No one messaged in our group until like 2pm. Person 2 and 3 eventually said they were too tired to go out. I directly messaged the girl if she wants to grab some food. She told me that she’s at an appointment and can’t meet right away and that she’s also got dinner planned at 7pm.

How do I know if she likes me? I am so bad at stuff like this. I really like her and I don’t know whether should keep pursuing her. I haven’t directly said I like her because I don’t want to make things weird if she doesn’t feel the same.

Both genders are guilty of this. However we are (supposed) to get better at judging and/or giving advice as we get older and more experienced.

But I’ve had grown ass woman say some ridiculous things to me in the past. I feel like many of them take a common mental shortcut falsely believing that dating is same more men as it is for themselves (when all else equal). It’s not. Not at all. Not even close.

That’s not say I don’t know women have to deal with some common pitfalls. Many men will lie to women and tell want them just what they want to hear to get their foot in the door. They figure that once a woman catches feelings for them they will get a “pass” on their bs. Sadly this sometimes works if the guy is good at it. But not always. Also it never works out in the long run for guys. Plus it makes women more bitter and resentful to men in general after the process.

But anyway I feel most women who criticize men don’t put the mental effort into understanding the challenges most men face in the early steps of dating.

Most don’t understand how we are expected to take risks and stick our necks out. How we get shit tested. How we usually have to plan dates and usually spend money. How the odds are usually stacked against us. How we are supposed to keep calm and brush off (sometimes nasty) rejection and just move on quickly forgetting about it. How women falsely assume that men run into just as many opportunities as they do. Etc.