Should I let him go and destroy my feelings?

[Anonymous]

I am a 16 year old, who has a crush on a 20 year old guy. Weird, I know. When I met him, I never really expected things to go this way, I thought he'd just be another acquaintance or another guy friend... but something about him just made me feel something for him. I really love who he is and his perspective on life, and so much more. But I was told to let it go because I'm too young and I should find guys my age. I did and it didn't really work out, some of them became obsessive that's why I kinda stopped dating guys my age. It's already been months since me and my crush last talked. I don't even think about him anymore (I'm surprised how I managed to do that) but somehow I frequently see him in my dreams, which weirdly enough makes my feelings resurface and come back stronger. I haven't confessed yet... and I'm not planning to, but I feel like the only way to stop him from going into my dreams everynight is to destroy my feelings. Because I know the more I dream, the bigger my feelings will get. Is this a good plan?

[_Maya_]

You have infatuation for someone. Not uncommon at your age. I do think you are being a bit dramatic about it. The whole destroy your feelings to keep him out of your dreams and stuff. Sorry but true. Not that I would be any different at your age. It's easy to feel like that when it is something you know you can't have. Best let time heal that wound. No different than a bad breakup. It takes time. I do get what you are saying about boys your age being immature and not datable. That easily shows why you took interest in someone older that you think is mature. Truth is that you have time to meet the right guy.

[SnowedIn]

Your memories and feelings can't be destroyed. Doesn't work like that.

You have to distract your mind and body and actively focus on other things.

Work out. Run. Swim. Read. Music. Baking. Friends.

Also, WRITE. Writing will help immensely.

[boobliker]

yes let him go don't look back you have loads of time to find the right one

[sammyyyyasdfghjkl]

Let him go.

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[riverrat3]

Life happens