I had confessed my feelings to a girl who clearly led me on. The situation was complicated coz she was in another relationship at the same time. She was giving me all the sign and hints that she likes me and I fell for her. Not just once. It was multiple times, multiple instances, for long periods of time. I had not felt this way in a long time about anyone, so when this was happening I really really thought this was it. Eventually after 1 year of knowing her I confessed, but when I confessed (she made me confess over text) and she told me she only saw me as a friend, I felt destroyed. But being the nice guy I didn't even confront her back then. I took all the blame on myself. Told her she didn't do anything and she doesn't owe me anything blah blah. When I confessed she said: I really hope I didn't give you any signals and intentionally lead you on. I don't know what to say about this. I feel bad. All I can say is sorry to you.
And like a nice guy I just responded saying don't feel sorry. You don't owe me anything. All of this happened over text. So, she has written proof of me admitting that she was innocent and it was all me.
We haven't been texting for a long time. We are in the same school that is coming to an end. I will be seeing her two more times and then maybe for graduation 3 months later and then probably never again. I don't know if I should intentionally confront her even if she doesn't bring up the topic and let her know that I know she played me. Even after meeting her in class after a long time - to make things less awkward between us - I was like I hope I didn't hurt you by saying all that. She was a good friend to me but I feel stupid that she gets to go scot-free and why I'm repeatedly making it look like this is all my fault. She was quickly diverting the topic.
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Nice guys don't actively try to ruin another man's relationship lmao you're not nice, you're ass.
She was in another relationship, flirting with you, and you're surprised you got played? You played yourself homie
Couldn't put the whole thing up earlier due to character count limit. The remaining part below. Gonna pin this up so that everyone reads.
In hindsight, I do realized I brought this upon myself, but at that point of time I was convincing myself that maybe she is not happy in that relationship, and there seem to be something presumably wrong (but everything seems fine now between them). I don't usually develop for every other girl I meet. She seemed very genuine and ticked all the boxes and I thought this is it. I know I got used by her and she was just looking for attention which she probably was not getting back then and I dragged myself in between. But I still believe she dragged me too coz she lead me on.
Two questions:
1) should I intentionally bring up this topic and let her know that I know what she did to me? Or just let it go and move on?
2) If this topic naturally comes up (which I doubt she would coz deep down I guess she knows she played me), should I pretend and continue to take all the blame? Or let her know how I truly feel about what happened?