A friend and his girlfriend moved away 2yrs ago, they ended up breaking up and she moved back. Her and I were also very good friends, to the point of saying we love each other. After she got back, she looked me up on Facebook and told me some of the story. She also said to call her so we could go out and catch up. 3 days later I sent a text and we made plans to go out on a Tuesday or Wed. She said she would "call" and let me know what day works best. Never heard from her. She contacted me again, on F. B and told me "we really need to hook up one of these days"... told me to call her. I sent a message back saying, "yes, we do" but I never called. About 2 weeks later, we saw each other at a restaurant. She hugged me, told me how good I look, said "call me!! I'm serious. I wanna get together with you and tell you all kinds of stories". About a week later I called to see how she is and to make some plans. Her response, "yes! I will call you after work, I promise! We need to make it happen". Guess what? She sent me a text the other day and I told her to get fucked! Was I wrong? She sent one back asking what my problem is. I don't know if she is seeing just how hard I'll chase her? If she's on drugs or just crazy? Girls, have you or any other girl you know strung along a guy like this? Is there something I'm missing?
You do not want to appear pushy so you wait a long time to answer. That's not the best strategy here. She is already signalling interest so you should offer a concrete place and time and move things ahead. Do not be afraid to be more active and text her faster. She's used to it, anyway, I'm sure.
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When she kept telling you to call her, why did you just text her? Sometimes people text me when Im busy and I forget about it after I carry on soing what Im doing. So much easier to call and make plans. Why did you not call until the third time?
No, I just have too little time to deal with that. I'll shoot that arrow of rejection right through your heart. But you'll appreciate a quick sting more than bleeding out slowly, I reckon.
I don’t understand why you’re so upset. She probably just got busy and I think she just wanted to hang out as friends anyway.
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Bro, if she is not gonna be honest about her feelings or keep you confused all the time, disengage.
She is teasing you, I am familiar with this trait in women, and I don't like it. Its ok to have fun teasing, but the first communication is HER job to keep the interest You did your part. I say, don't get attached too quickly, and let her go. Those women are toxic.
Trash.
She is a flake and you did the right thing.
the story has a gap when she sent a text.
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