Search Results: dating an older girl

"Living together" or "cohabiting" means that either one or both of you gave up your previous living quarters and moved in with the other, so that if there was an argument, you couldn't get in your car and go home. . . because you were already home. And it covers couples that were married as well as unmarried couples. But it doesn't include relationships in which you would spend weekends at her apartment.

I have lived with six women over the span of 53 years of dating. The first was Pat, a girl who came in and out of my life over a period of decades. Ultimately, she cheated on me with another female. Yes, I believe that part of the infidelity was prompted by her bisexuality. We lived together for a total of five years.

Next was Evelyn, 11 years older than me, a rebound from Pat and a horrible choice for me. We lived together for about five months. She moved out after confessing that she cheated on me with my former roommate.

Debby and I lived together for 15 years, Lynn and I for 5 years, and another bad decision and I lived together for about 2 years.

Helen and I started living together three years ago. It is the best relationship I have ever had.

If I could go back in time. . . three of the first five should have never happened. Fortunately, I've learned from my mistakes.

What is your history of living with partners? Any regrets? Lessons learned?

One of my close friends started dating a Narcissist. It didn't end well. She almost took her life. Before they were official she went to visit her best friend and used him as a rebound to get over him, but went back to the narc anyway.

She dated the narcissist's best friend first, had a baby, lost a 2 week old baby girl with him and he left her few months after the burial. She then tried to take her life, soon after she started dating his best friend (the Narcissist) for 2 years, She started using heavy drugs on and off and drinking a lot, left him, tried to take her life again and now is dating her own best friend (the rebound guy) who she has always been using as a rebound. Is this at all normal?

The moment she and the Narcissist broke up she traveled by bus again 5 hours to see her best friend (rebound guy) and slept with him again. Came back and next moment a month after the breakup started dating the best friend (rebound guy) who she says she has known for 13 years. She suddenly loves and have loved him for 13 years but always chose other guys over him in fear of what he can offer her and was running away from him. Describes him as a perfect human and is perfect for her, doesn't judge her and knows everything about her.

The best friend is also a psychologist (Nothing against psychologists) and has major influence over her. We don't think 1 month is enough time to get over everything after a relationship of 2 years. All of us tried talking to her. But she doesn't want to listen to anyone. She pushes everyone away including family.

Ignores and manipulates her own psychologist and psychiatrist about her mental health and go against what the doctors keep telling her to not drink while on the meds but she doesn't listen and the "best friend" doesn't do anything to try and stop her when she does impulsive things. Lets her drink and do drugs.

Is this normal and just a phase, and what can we do to help her? How do we approach this? Any advice at all will be helpful.