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SLEEP as in “to sleep per chance to dream”

💤 ~sleep~ cuddle ~sleep ~no sex~ 💤

I’ve spoken with many people who find this very relaxing. But these people are not anxious for sex. I don't know how relaxing it is for the person who really badly wants sex.

Tho some may agree, it can be relaxing even if they want sex, as long as they know for sure sex is definitely not happening.

I’m sure some would agree while nursing a deep hope for more..

if I like someone I’d be ok sleeping next to them or I’d be very happy to depending …as long as I was absolutely assured they really weren’t expecting sex.

i can easily see this being exploited under false pretenses so I’d have to trust them a ton and tres carefully. I’d make sure my roommates are home for example..

I have never had anyone say they wanted to sleep next to me when what they really wanted to do was sleep. And I’ve never said this to an anyone bc I am confident the assumption will be that im speaking in code and sleep is just euphemism for sex.

my guess is despite my vast Herculean emoji efforts😛, many people will not read the body of this post and will assume fork the tiller that the person who doesn’t want to date wants friends with benefits to avoid having sex with someone they know.

I see gag immediately placed it in sexuality😒

It is like to live in a world where this kind of thing could be taken at face value.

actuality I think within the Amish community young people sleep next to each other as part of courtship. But courtship is a huge deal so that’s not a great example I suppose. Respect tho. I think it’s a good idea.

I think in dating people spend so much conscious energy existing themselves trying to be a certain way and present a certain way that much of our authentic self get swept away. While with Sleeping you are who you are… you can’t fake it. Your curations are exactly you. I think it’s a good bonding exercise bed very Informative. Or alternatively, just calming and peaceful.

30F and I don’t think I’ll ever shake my core belief that any decently presentable lady has no prob finding a man, a pretty girl well forget about it. I’m very reserved, I’ve always been but was *friendlier* in my early twenties, now I’m borderline antisocial. I always blamed growing up overweight as the reason why I didn’t get attention from guys/wasn’t popular, I lost weight in my early twenties and have maintained my weight loss since (still slim thick). Again, this weight loss didn’t change the attention I got from guys & I was a bit more sociable back then.

I’m told I’m attractive (from all kinds of people for most of my life & not only family/friends) & the only times attractive guys take initiative are on dating apps. And apps are absolute trash as we know, guys I’d find attractive in person have never made it known to me directly. It’s always that RARE occasion where I think one is maybe making eye contact or someone I knew pointed out a guy was looking at me/word of mouth this or that guy found me attractive etc. Then on dating apps, I’d have guys that I initially considered *potential* eventually showing interest in me (asking out etc) after I got to know them a bit more and I just find a way to dip out.

Im so conflicted. I feel invisible & when a guy appeals to me in some way on a dating app (which should be taken with a grain of salt), I just can’t be bothered for whatever the reason is for me at that moment. It’s apathy/anxiety/self sabotage/confusion etc?

I always think of myself as very straightforward and someone who appreciates the opportunity to be direct (direct in terms of honesty if not brevity) to make sure that things don’t get unnecessarily confusing. I suppose we can I say I believe very strongly in being direct. I absolutely have no interest in being evasive…

However, in practice, often times when met with specific situations, I’m surprised at how NON-ecstatic I am to discuss things. (Not thinking of anything in particular at the moment, I’m just reflecting overall)

I think I’m finding a discrepancy between my opinion of how direct I am and how actually direct I am in ALL situations. Of course it’s Fairly easy to be direct about something that you want to be directed, but of course.

And of course we’re all going to have behavioral practices that differ from our ideas of how we behave but I think usually there there’s a pretty strong overlap. Well I guess unless you’re totally delusional, but let’s take for granted most of us aren’t totally delusional..

I think im _not_ direct a lot more often than I think i am. At least I WANT to be. That’s important 😅

Anyhow, I don’t know what stops me… True, it’s uncomfortable but I think 78% of my life has been uncomfortable so I don’t see that as being the main culprit. I don’t know firsthand that information is way worse in the long run.

Maybe I’m fairly certain they’re not going to understand if I try to explain and so I’m just saving us both time by saying nothing 🤔 that’s possible.