Search Results: can guys be just friends

Just to give a brief intro - I noticed this guy randomly gazing and smiling at me. We eventually made friends and he is usually the first one to initiate any interaction. He always looks/stares at me when he walks towards me/in my direction. He holds very strong eye contact when we talk, he smiles a lot when we talk and he teases me. Over the last few days, things have seemed very intense

- We were talking and he more or less admitted that he doesn’t like talking to people in general. I said, “well I must be pretty awesome if you’re talking to me.”, he said “yes, absolutely, you passed the test with flying colours” but did not look at me when he said that.

- We made eye contact and he looked away so quickly/aggressively that I thought his head would fall off

- Yesterday, he walked past me/in my direction three times and each time, I caught him staring at me

- Today, I caught him looking at me a few times and he smiled at me when I looked at him

- I told him that I like his shirt and he smiled, and he was still smiling to himself when I walked away

- he walked past my office and he doesn’t work anywhere near me. He was walking right against the wall and stared into the window at me as he walked past. When I teased him about it, he said “I was bored and going for a walk”, he didn’t have to come by my office.

- we were talking and he stared into my eyes for what seemed like ages

I have this guy in my class whom I’ve known for a long time from an old school. We both moved to the same college, and since we didn’t know anyone there, we naturally started talking more. Recently, as we’ve been spending more one-on-one time together, I’ve started developing feelings for him.

I’ve heard that most guys believe men and women can’t really be just friends, so I thought that by spending more time together and getting closer, maybe he’d start to like me too. I consider myself an attractive person—people tend to turn their heads when I enter a room—so I wonder if he sees me as just a friend or if he might want something more.

The only thing that makes me doubt is that I’m four years older than him, and I wonder if that affects how he sees me. One thing I’m sure about is that if he wanted a hookup, he wouldn’t say no—but I’m not sure if he would actually want a relationship with me.