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Me and my ex boyfriend broke up about a month ago because he felt I wasn’t emotionally there for him anymore but I had no idea he felt this way I have this problem where when I finally get comfortable with someone I over share and tell them the most random stuff that has nothing to do with either of us and so the last couple days of our relationship I had been having hard days and so I went to him just to vent to him and I got so caught in my mental stuff that I forgot to ask him how he was doing and about two weeks prior to this I told him that I didn’t want to see him for a while because I wanted to finish the school year with minimal distractions spend some time with some of my friends that I don’t see very often and spend time with my family and he took this personally because he is over thinker and so it made him feel like I didn’t love him anymore but I totally did and do but my mom was also mad because he never really talked to my parents we would always just go into my basement and watch tv because he has social anxiety and our relationship with my parents was kind of lie because I met him on snap and I’m not supposed to have snap so I didn’t want to get in trouble so we made up a story on how we met and so that made it harder for us to talk with them and especially with his social anxiety and the lies it was just lie after lie and it was hard to keep track of what we said so I never forced him to talk to my parents but my mother was not fond of that so anyways things weren’t really the same after I said that and so he said he wanted to break up because it was kind of turning into a one sided relationship and so I feel like it’s all my fault is it? Sorry for not using proper English I don't know how to do that

Obviously both are liars and scams, using deception to get what they want. Though would say you baby-trapping a man is worse than strining along (giving them false promises of marriage and kids) women?

Male method: He's been living with his girlfriend for 8 years and he already knows from the longest that he won't ever marry her. Yet he doesn't see the relationship as that bad, just that he sees her as a good girlfriend but not enough to be a wife. So he keeps with sweet talks and false hopes. The woman continues believing him but gets depressed the relationship isn't progressing. She's not happy. Or he proposes with a cheaper ring and keeps her as a fiancee just to give her false hope and keep her from leaving but never plans a wedding date. By wasting her time, he's taking away her fertile years.

Female method: She's been living her with boyfriend for some years but is fed up with the situation. So she elaborates a plan to pretend to be on birth control or secretly sabotage it. Sometimes the woman already knows the guy isn't the type to bail out and is against abortion or she does this to someone that believes a child should be raised with marriage. Knowing that, she got what she wanted; a short-cut to a proposal and then marriage. She might even take that secret to the grave. The man ends up believing the birth of his child as an accident or miracle from god if he's religious.

This is how a baby-trapping (this woman got marriage out of that deception and the man never found out) story looks like:

https://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/3427335-my-20-year-old-lie-secret.html#google_vignette

Both were about satisfying their own desires and needs; selfishness. Even though both are doing despicable acts (deception is already bad), would you say baby-trapping is worse? The reason I think it's worse is because an innocent baby (a small, living human) is used as part of the deception, scam. I think that's worse than even using someone for sex or money.