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for some odd reason women in Latin America think that life is a beauty pageant. all women will go out of their way just to look good and "fuckable" and attract men or just dominating the dating pool in general. as a result of this plastic surgeries and other risky cosmetic procedures have now become really common in my native country Dominican Republic along with other Latin American countries like Colombia, Venezuela, Brazil, etc.

I'll be honest, this is pretty toxic for the fact that these cosmetic procedure are not just cheating but are also harmful in the long run. is also toxic because this makes our women very superficial in many ways. but looking at the bright side at least our women know that big boobs and big booties are what turn men on and they seem not to mind fulfilling that.

women in America in the other hand are the polar opposite. the majority of them are obese and even worst they never want to fix themselves in any way whether its for their own good health or for other more superficial reasons. they instead demand that men must accept for who they are and again instead of fixing themselves they attack the men as if we are not allow to have our preferences. they result to calling us "misogynist pigs" and many other negative terms that helps them cope with their misery.

till then I was wondering, which one you think its more toxic?

I went through this about 10 years ago. My then 25 year old girlfriend made more than me when I was 32. But at the time I was pursuing a dream (I was a professional athlete) and I my time was consumed with training. I was no dead beat but I just had a different focus at the time.

I was doing freelance work just to pay the bills and I was struggling. She even offered me money at one time (which extremely kind of her) but it I turned it down out of pride and went further in debt.

Anyway the insecurity was on my side when it can to this (also contributed to our break up). She didn’t care but I did. It had a lot to with being raised to “be a man” when it came to being a breadwinner.

Nowadays I make a lot more money given I’m retired from my sport and have full focus on my career. But I am also a lot more “boring” now since I’m no longer the free wheeling adventurer I once was.

But money is a touchy issue. Form a evolutionary perspective I really do believe most women still subconsciously expect a man to provide for them even it’s unnecessary or impractical. They might get into short term flings with guys who offer other benefits (looks, excitement, adventurer, personality, etc) but when it comes to long term commitments they have a much higher bar on this

I also believe when a woman makes more money then her boyfriend/husband she’s more prone to cheating. Especially if she is comparable to him when it comes to looks (maybe she will stay loyal if she’s physically unattractive compared to him)

In fact I believe it’s unfairly more socially “acceptable” for a woman to do this given the guy is considered a “chump” if he is financial dependent on her. More more acceptable then vice versa.

I have a divorced uncle who worked a low paying his entire life and was supported by his (comparably) rich wife. She was no multi millionaire but she earned a lot more than him.

She ended up cheating on him the entire marriage. He tolerated it because they had kids and he needed support.