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I have been working at my current company for almost 2 and a half years now. I've recently developed a crush on a colleague, but we've always had a flirty relationship. However, due to our situations, it would be almost impossible to have a relationship together. He's always been lovely to me and the flirting included things like him doing silly things to get my attention, staring at me, prolonged/strong eye contact, going out of his way to help me, seeming jealous about other men, organising the gifts/cards for my 30th birthday etc etc. I've always felt fairly confident that he felt the same way.

HOWEVER, a few weekends ago, we met up on a night out. I had too much to drink and I ended up telling him that I really liked him as more than a friend. I asked him if he liked me back, to which he said "you're a lovely person". I kept asking him, being persistent with it - he kept repeating “you’re a lovely person” and I eventually said "just answer the question", to which he replied "yes, I do but we can't be together etc". I think we had a few quick kisses on the lips, not a proper kiss, but a peck.

The day after, I apologised to him for potentially putting him in an awkward position, to which he said "don't worry about it".

The next week at work, he apparently wasn't aware of what happened. I told him that I had kissed him and he looked shocked, saying "that's not ideal, I wouldn't have kissed you properly". For the rest of the week, he barely spoke to me and was hot and cold in his behaviour towards me.

He has gotten better but he doesn't flirt with me like he used to before all this happened. He has shown being jealous because he overheard me saying I was going on a date. I saw him look in my direction and when I told him to have a nice weekend, he abruptly said “bye”

Was there any truth in him telling me that he likes me? Does he still like me? If so, why is he being weird?

I have an older sister (15 years my senior) who only hits me up when she wants money…. literally! Or simply when she wants something from me. It hasn’t always been this way, but for the past year or so I’m always the one initiating contact and most of the time she never answers or returns my calls/texts. I get ignored, but as soon as one of her bills are due or she claims she’s in need she will quickly pick up the phone and won’t hesitate to ask (constantly by the way). She didn’t even call on my birthday to wish me a happy birthday and that was like the icing on the cake for me. In a situation like this I won’t lie it hurts because I thought my sister and I were close, but apparently not. She even went as far as to tell me she doesn’t care about my boyfriend. That comment hurt because usually I can confide in her about my relationship but I don't know what made her not care anymore. It’s been almost 2 months now and she just hit me up today to ask if I could un cancel my Netflix so she could watch. Not a “how are you?”, “how’s life?”, or nothing just can I have, can I have, can I have! I’m at my wits end and although it sucks and it’s hurtful, I’m ready to cut the line and say you know what I tried but this is toxic and it’s not worth it because I do feel like it’s a one sided relationship. My question is should I? Or what would you do in a situation like this?