What do you think about long distance relationships?

Question

So I have no luck finding a girl near me, and long distance has definitely crossed my mind especially recently. I know IF I do it will be a lot of work and we need to ask the important questions right away like who will relocate in the end of it works out. I'm just wondering from anybody who has experience what they think, I know I'm going to get different answers here. I still don't know if I'd do it but I haven't thinking about it.

mattthefatbat · Accepted Answer

Well for me it worked and they are definitely not a waste of time. I was abit like you I too also didn't feel like anyone in my town or nearby really liked me in a relationship seeking kind of way, so I looked on some dating app and I met my partner online and found out she wasn't a country away but only a couple states away and we got to know eachother through calling and texting everyday and night and well we fell in love and decided to keep what we have despite how physically lonely it feels being long distance, we made plans together for our future and promised we would always be there for eachother, loyal and support eachother as far as I can remember there really hasn't been a time where I felt like she wanted to give up on me completely and neither have I. But what helped it work was the level of communication we had with eachother, the trust and understanding, caring and helping eachother, yknow basic blocks of building a good relationship is what we have with eachother. And to top that off after about a year or two of saving up I went to go see her and it felt all the more worth it. Yknow that feeling your dog or cat gets when they haven't seen their owner in a long time, it's like that basically. Especially if you both are committed to eachother and keep making efforts to keep what you have just as good and special it makes the relationship you have with them irreplaceable. Plus ofcourse if you are dealing with their family it only helps that they would also like you too though. I dont want to put other people down for not tolerating a long distant relationship because they can be hard to those who need more physical touch in their lives because the actual feeling of being with someone is really irreplaceable, but love is never replaceable it lasts and real love with the right someone won't change no matter the distance.

CozyCoffin · Accepted Answer

I wish I had gone for it when i was given the chance. I thought it would be like the relationship I have with my mom, who abandoned me, then ghosted me on and off through the rest of my life. I didn't want to risk being in a relationship with someone, just to be left or to have to drop everyone I know or for her to drop everyone she knows. One of us would have had to go either to Texas or Massachusetts and live there. I feel like it was a highly missed opportunity as i haven't had any success in dating. There could have been a life long thing. We could have had a family right now.

StarWarGirl · Answer

I'm in LDR since more than 2 years now. I had not much problem but I liked this idea since always as we could understand the person first before getting involved into complicated situation ending up with a wrong person. But my boyfriend was kind of person who believed in physical contact physical presence more for him it was new experience and he says he learnt a lot

He says because of LDR he was able to understand what does actual trust feels, how does a true love truly is. How communication is very important. Why it is important to express love and emotions through words. He learnt about himself a lot by this. It was really very much fruitful.

But the difficult side of LDR is that sometimes we do feel lonely when we are sad as our partners aren't there to hug and console and when we do get sexual urge it feels tough.

But if we could manage this much LDR really gives a good result if we are with the right honest person. As it teaches us to trust.

It is said who could survive LDR the chances of long and successful relationship is more for that couple.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I don’t think they are real relationships. Just having a regular text buddy isn’t love and sure isn’t a relationship. A relationship of substance means you get to know the intimate parts of who a person is. This is not just physical but their moods. Their facial expressions. Their subtle nuances and daily habits. Everything from going to a movie to grocery shopping to how they interact with the world in various settings. These cannot be gleaned over a device. Whatever time is wasted on the long distance relationship would be far better off being invested in self-improvement, real-life social connections, or just meeting new people.

Mind you, once a relationship is firmly established a long distance period may be inevitable such as a temporary job assignment or maybe military deployment. I don’t think this is the same thing at all. The foundation exists already.

IAMRIA · Answer

Yes. They can be very good. I got married with my long-distance partner. But it’s kinda difficult. Both have to be really in love. Limit text messages. A lot of video calls. Get to know them. Meet their parents too. And also their friends. Be sure you hold the same values and morals. It’s definitely much harder.

bobalife · Answer

Well my sister and her now husband made it work from east coast and west coast. My friend of a friend made it work from US to Korea lol. One of my work management made it work from U. S. to China too. They’re all happily married. They all proved long distance can work if you’re willingly to put in the work, ready for commitment, and if you love them :) Best of luck!

Crankor · Answer

Overall they aren't worth it. At some point one or the other will stop putting in the needed effort. It is also a much different type of relationship that makes it difficult to proceed to the "let's start thinking about moving in together" phase. It's too easy to stay in that best behavior act without really knowing how the other handles themselves in life situations

electromagnetic · Answer

It works for some and it’s not an option for others.
I’m a bit on the both sides. Personally, I’d rather not but my partner and I have spent quite some time apart for months at a time because of our jobs

JacobJordan · Answer

Takes more effort than most people are willing to put in. Most people want instant gratification and if they have to deal with delayed gratification they would rather give up and look for instant gratification

Billlewis · Answer

I've had some very satisfying long distance relationships with women who were in a relationship with a boyfriend or husband, and decided to use me as an obedient online pay pig.

DreamLife7 · Answer

If you can't find someone near you no offense but you're not going to have luck far away. It has a lot to do with the way you look and your socioeconomic status. You need to focus on getting your life together

SotiCoto · Answer

You can start that way, but typically the distance should be permanently closed before too long... otherwise things get tense and fall apart. So basically, you're setting yourself up for an expensive gamble depending on who has to move home.

Paris13 · Answer

Take it From One, Hun---Me. Takes Two To Make it Work and To take The Effort. Sure, Try It. Good luck. xxoo

Drumlin2001 · Answer

What's long distance? My ex was about an hour away, drove to see her a couple of times a week. Other than that we would text everyday.

Miristheiss · Answer

I would never do one. If my girl chose to move away I would break up.

boobliker · Answer

they are only any good if you want freedom of an open relationship, as when at college you date all the girls at college but go home to the ones you love most of all

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I just can't imagine an LDR working for any period of time unless there is an amazing connection. And if there is an amazing connection, why be long distance? One of you move to the other.

Kaitkc2 · Answer

My husband and I met long distance and now have a baby together and ended up in the same place! Give it a chance if that’s what you’re wanting to do! You never know.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it’s ok. It can cause loneliness, but some people have found their partner that way.

DextroShade · Answer

Unless she is going to be moving nearby within the next year it is a waste of time.

Anonymous · Answer

Long distance relationships don’t work and it’s just as worthless as internet dating where two idiots who have never met think they can fall in love via texting or messaging.

Crimson79 · Answer

They’re a waste of time, and they don’t usually work. For all you know, the other person could be cheating on you.

Anonymous · Answer

Take a trip to the Philippines. Girls there will go nuts for you. Lots of single women wanting foreigners.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

You van hook up locally everywhere. Why longdistance? Join tinder

FreyaRed · Answer

Thinking about LDR is wasting of time.

McLlovin · Answer

I can't do it. Might as well be single

exitseven · Answer

I did one for 3 years. It was not much fun.

sheikalana · Answer

Childish and a waste of time.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Waste of time. That's not a real relationship.

SashaHa · Answer

It's fun c:

S_f21 · Answer

Definitely possible

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